Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
well I am over 40 and have met many men who can quite happily differentiate between love and sex. And more then a handful of women too. If this were not the case why do many visit prostitutes / have affairs they have no intention of furthering... ?? maybe because they just want sex....
It isn't so much what you are saying it is the quantity or extent that I disagree with. I don't know nor have I ever met a single man who has been to a prostitute. Are they out there, yes. Are they typical, no. I know only a few who have had affairs. Have a couple I know done either and not copped to it, probably. Would they be many, doubtful. Describing that quantity as many seems a push to me and is painting a whole lot of men with a very wide brush.
Nor is the question differentiating between love and sex. I don't think that sex necessarily leads to love or a deeper feeling of love but for me and most people I know it means that a relationship is at a new level when it starts and fundamentally changed and that intimacy will be one of the building blocks of a greater love that may follow.
However, if and when I'm with a woman that takes things to a whole new level that turns the situation into a non-stop, porn induced F fest every night, combined with her telling me all the things that I like hearing (although are never true) in the endless bombardment of love letters, texts and late night in depth journeys into the soul while lying in bed together. Basically, in addition to out of control, passionate sex, if a woman can sucessfully convince me that I'm "the one" and that she loves me "sooooooo much" (note: numerous 'o's), then and only then, I do fall deeper in love after the sex. But never with just sex alone.
It isn't so much what you are saying it is the quantity or extent that I disagree with. I don't know nor have I ever met a single man who has been to a prostitute. Are they out there, yes. Are they typical, no. I know only a few who have had affairs. Have a couple I know done either and not copped to it, probably. Would they be many, doubtful. Describing that quantity as many seems a push to me and is painting a whole lot of men with a very wide brush.
Nor is the question differentiating between love and sex. I don't think that sex necessarily leads to love or a deeper feeling of love but for me and most people I know it means that a relationship is at a new level when it starts and fundamentally changed and that intimacy will be one of the building blocks of a greater love that may follow.
Well I guess we have to disagree then. Having travelled a lot and lived in a few cities I have met a lot of people and could probably name many who have done both. I even know a guy who was a prostitute / escort for a few years. He also made a packet from porn films. Would you know if you met him - no. Does he tell people - no. You never really know what people get up to.....
I'm not saying all men are the same - but I think the number of men who fall deeper in love after sex as the OP asked is less than the number of men who just want to have sex and don't associate it with love at all......
lol, yes if you look at people in the adult industry I imagine a large percentage often disassociate love and sex without difficulty. At any rate fair enough, amongst the circles you have traveled it is by your perception common as you know many men who see prostitutes and have affairs and often both. I have traveled a great deal myself but this does not describe my experience which is actually quite opposite. I cant claim to know which group of people would be more representative of a general consensus. I can say I have been wrong before.
Ladies, do you subscribe to this belief? Men, what's your opinion on this?
No...sex is sex, has nothing to do with love.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
