Snooping.. Found more than I wanted to. (girlfriend, how to, marriage)

[IonRedline08]

First off, I know snooping is wrong. Totally.

However, it's been done.

I don't even know how to explain this, but, I had some concerns about things she may have been involved in before we met.

She has mentioned things, but I have never really heard the whole story. They involve some kinky escapades, as well as a "convenience marriage."

Anyways, I found some things that have led me to believe that I wasn't told the whole story. Also, some of the things I found are a bit disturbing, and make me question if I want to be in this relationship.

Otherwise, our relationship has been totally amazing.

For me, I think the snooping was in an effort to double check about some things that I have been uncomfortable about since the start.

Should I confront her with what I know? Should I ask and see how she responds? Should I come clean about the snooping and tell her what I discovered?

[Timmyy]

what are some of the things you found?

I say it is in her past and as long as she is with you only I would just move on. Try not to dwell on it.

[MonaLisaVito]

More information is needed to form any type of opinion on this. But just in my opinion, if anyone snooped on me, especially when our relationship was going "totally amazing", well, we would be through.

[temptation001]

You might as well tell her what you discovered. Are you going to keep it a secret and just break up with her, or are you willing to let her know you are a snoop and after she gets over the frustration, if she doesn't dump you, then maybe you guys can talk about the situation. What do you want to do?

[Djuna]

When we decide to break our partner's trust by snooping around, we had better be prepared for what the repercussions will be.

Personally, if I were your girlfriend, I would dump your a&& as soon as I found out about your utter betrayal of my privacy and our trust.

[Currency Pair Crocodile]

What is a convenience marriage? Etudiez-moi

[Djuna]

Originally Posted by Antlered Chamataka

What is a convenience marriage? Etudiez-moi

Google is your friend.

A marriage of convenience is usually one for immigration purposes, or to hide your sexuality, or along those types of lines.

[Timmyy]

Originally Posted by Djuna

Google is your friend.

A marriage of convenience is usually one for immigration purposes, or to hide your sexuality, or along those types of lines.

I.E. The Clintons.

[Currency Pair Crocodile]

Originally Posted by Djuna

Google is your friend.

A marriage of convenience is usually one for immigration purposes, or to hide your sexuality, or along those types of lines.

Do you know google is your friend is against TOS?

You said you came from New Zealand to seek love right?

[IonRedline08]

Basically, she was involved in some kinky type stuff, including some BDSM, possibly for pay.

Also, married a guy in the military for the insurance and so that he could get the extra pay.