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The worse thing about online dating is when your friend tries to pressure you into doing it. She suggested to me that I should try online dating because it's the in thing nowadays. I told her "I didn't realize it was a requirement to try it out." She told me she met her ex on a dating site and I repeated to her that I didn't need it because what I was doing was working. She said "Just try it out you might get lucky and meet someone." This went back and forth a few times and I got annoyed, excused myself, and left. The woman could not comprehend that I wasn't interested in using online dating. It was like talking to a brick wall.
I think her point was that it costs nothing to give it a shot (unless you decide to pay for it), and you expand your pool of potential options.
I think her point was that it costs nothing to give it a shot (unless you decide to pay for it), and you expand your pool of potential options.
I got what she meant 100% but I feel I have more success with meeting women in real life. It's the only thing I've done basically I'm stuck in my ways lol.
Expanding the pool-- plain and simple. Nothing more or less.
Thanks to dating sites and apps I've had dates, relationships, hookups, business connections, friendships, terrific conversations, fun evenings, etc. with women whose paths I'd have never otherwise crossed.
That's why *this* guy has bothered with online dating, anyway
Unplanned pregnancies started in 1954, decades before OLD was even a glimmer in Al Gore's eye
Your cousin's weakness lies in dating someone he's not interested in, if he really wasn't, and not in the means he used to meet her. Or perhaps in his being reckless in not seeing to it that a pregnancy didn't happen. I think mishgas73 and Metaphysique are saying that the men they're with used OLD precisely as a means to assertively connect with women they liked, were attracted to, and who they had a better chance of being compatible with. Sounds like a win to me.
If you think that was unplanned, based on the information that I gave you, then I have a bridge to sell you
"Unplanned pregnancies" are 90% nonsense.
As for the women, most women don't understand men - the same as most men don't understand women.
Shouting down a man with contrary views, in a thread about men's mindset, merely shows it up for what it is.
Well, for me, it's definitely not fear at this point in my life. And I wouldn't say it's so much laziness, but rather me doing both in real life, and online dating. Why not? It's free, use it when I'm at home (which is a lot since I tend to be a homebody, though not quite as much as in my younger years), etc.
Not to mention, with the women on OLD, you know a lot of them are looking to date at the very least. In real life, you don't know that with the woman you approach. More targeted in that regard.
The women there are looking to date, are they?
You deny that a great deal of women are there enjoying validation of their worth?
And what are you getting out of that? Any value in that for you?
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Expanding the pool-- plain and simple. Nothing more or less.
Thanks to dating sites and apps I've had dates, relationships, hookups, business connections, friendships, terrific conversations, fun evenings, etc. with women whose paths I'd have never otherwise crossed.
That's why *this* guy has bothered with online dating, anyway
Yup, this 100x. It's great. Met three people in the last week (all quality women) after turning on my profile for a week. Turn it on, make some dates, see where it goes. Repeat.
I assure you until you've done that you haven't seen self-entitled trust me. I fit neither of the aforementioned categories OLD is best for men with low standards that can't attract high quality women in RL.
I agree that lowering your standards just generally happens for a man dating online. Part of the process.
The sort of filters that OLD places on a man narrows him into a very bad place, to the point where the whole deal lessens his value, merely by association.
I very quickly saw that game for what it was.
And yeah, I had girls initiating with me on those platforms. So what? The platform still sucks.
Yup, this 100x. It's great. Met three people in the last week (all quality women) after turning on my profile for a week. Turn it on, make some dates, see where it goes. Repeat.
It makes life much more fun.
Pssh. F1end will attempt to challenge your experience if it doesn't align with his. If you've met good, quality women, have had success, it isn't really success if they're not quality women in his eyes. How's that for alternative truth? What's true for you must be false, er, alternative truth, if it doesn't fit another's narrative.
Men do this too. The most unattractive guys think they should have the hottest women. Men always try to date out of their so-called league.
Men don't have a "league".
Of course, I am supposing that we aren't talking about a guy with some sort of massive unnatural problem. But.... the average man can go out in the world and make what he wants out of it.
Women rely on attracting men to them. It's a passive game. And the few women that are aggressive achieve what? An effeminate man.
Don't put your "equal standards" onto the dating game. It just doesn't fit.
Pssh. F1end will attempt to challenge your experience if it doesn't align with his. If you've met good, quality women, have had success, it isn't really success if they're not quality women in his eyes. How's that for alternative truth? What's true for you must be false, er, alternative truth, if it doesn't fit another's narrative.
First off, please argue the "quality woman" aspect with me.
What is "quality", then?
Because I see interest level - not quality.
But that would come from me playing this game on my own terms, and no-one elses.
Therefore, I pull many women out of their reality, and into mine.
Argue your case for "filtering for quality". Because I will argue that quality is solely based on interest level.
And I will be right. As usual
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