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I love how this guy simply tells us that he's been liberated from the whole relationship rat race and we all tell him he's gotta be nuts or have low testosterone levels or something. I for one WISH I didn't care about relationships and I know I'm not alone on that.
I think we can lie to ourselves and say we don't need a girl in our lives. But in a blink of an eye, we see us trapped in love, it's unbelievable...I wish I could set me free from that kind of feeling but, it's part of human nature, living in society increases our lifetime here. Sad but True!!!
I love how this guy simply tells us that he's been liberated from the whole relationship rat race and we all tell him he's gotta be nuts or have low testosterone levels or something.
People have a tendency to denegrate things they can't relate to and understand. I don't think there's anything wrong with how the OP thinks. It's certainly a less stressful life, but probably less chance for a really rewarding life. Risk averse, but nothing wrong with that.
People have a tendency to denegrate things they can't relate to and understand. I don't think there's anything wrong with how the OP thinks. It's certainly a less stressful life, but probably less chance for a really rewarding life. Risk averse, but nothing wrong with that.
I agree. Imagine how the OP would feel if he took a stupid risk and found in the end it's not worth it well quite frankly that would suck.
I'm 27 male, I don't want to have a GF or have kids or get married, I'm not the sensitive, emotional type of guy you will ever see in public holding hands, cuddling, etc... That's not my style. I'm heterosexual but I don't want to be in a relationship because that's not what I desire, actually, it will only waste my time and energy, being forced in a commitment I don't want to be, plus I save money by not being in a relationship and I don't have to worry about drama like breaking up, cheating, arguments, I don't need another person to make myself feel complete, I'm my own person, I feel confident enough about myself instead of seeking someone to rely on, I have freedom to do what I want when I want without being interrogated with questions asked by some GF, sex is also not important to me, I rather spend my time reading or doing something more productive with my time, I don't want to be a follower and procreate, I see no point of having kids, why would I want to be someone's personal slave? I won't put myself in that situation. Anyone else here who feels the same or similar?
Very good. You've articulated your stance toward relationships and love very well. Now if you can just find a partner who feels the same way you both would be better equipped to identify and respect each others boundaries. Once you articulate what you want, someone will eventually come along who feels and wants it also. Don't give up on relationships. It's not that you don't want to be in a relationship. You just don't want to be in a relationship as they have traditionally existed. Just express and redefine the meaning of a relationship until it meets your standards.
I'm 27 male, I don't want to have a GF or have kids or get married, I'm not the sensitive, emotional type of guy you will ever see in public holding hands, cuddling, etc... That's not my style. I'm heterosexual but I don't want to be in a relationship because that's not what I desire, actually, it will only waste my time and energy, being forced in a commitment I don't want to be, plus I save money by not being in a relationship and I don't have to worry about drama like breaking up, cheating, arguments, I don't need another person to make myself feel complete, I'm my own person, I feel confident enough about myself instead of seeking someone to rely on, I have freedom to do what I want when I want without being interrogated with questions asked by some GF, sex is also not important to me, I rather spend my time reading or doing something more productive with my time, I don't want to be a follower and procreate, I see no point of having kids, why would I want to be someone's personal slave? I won't put myself in that situation. Anyone else here who feels the same or similar?
haha just how i thought at 27, turn 30 and you will not feel the same, i can assure you that.
I'm confused at how you can know you found the right person without dating people to find out if they ARE the right person. You can't tell by looking at someone if they are or not.
And what may be right at a certain point in life may not be later on down the road. You can't control all the variables, how people grow, change, evolve. Sorry but I don't believe you can "establish clear boundaries" and think that nothing will change if you "lay the law down".
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Well, as Yogi Berra once said "You can observe a lot just by watching".
When you state what you will/won't tolerate, two things are bound to happen: 1.The person respects you for letting them know your boundaries or 2.They leave. Should they leave, it's in your best interest because they are showing you what kind of person they would be if you two got together. You don't want toxic people in your life. You have to have strong discernment in order to be able to recognize the right from the wrong person right off the bat. Being that most people are going to put their best foot forward, you have to observe how they are when they're NOT in your presence before you even agree to a date, let alone a relationship. How your mate acts when they are not in your presence is a good indicator of how they will be with you.
Just know that porn gets boring and that its really better to have someone there. A physical presence is better than touching yourself. You'll eventually get bored. Even if you have "low" testosterone, those types STILL want relationships.
Good luck, the problem is not the person but what you are finding. And if you don't find her now, you won't ever find her or one capable of loving you even when you are old and wrinkly.
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