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Just know that porn gets boring and that its really better to have someone there. A physical presence is better than touching yourself. You'll eventually get bored. Even if you have "low" testosterone, those types STILL want relationships.
Good luck, the problem is not the person but what you are finding. And if you don't find her now, you won't ever find her or one capable of loving you even when you are old and wrinkly.
One size doesn't fit all. If he wants to get his urges off through porn then let him. Besides, for all these people who say that he will eventually get depressed and lonely do you think he should get desperate and needy?
You had me up until everything after the word "desire". Terms like "wasting time and energy", "drama", "freedom", "without being interrogated", "someone's personal slave" reveals a lot more about you than you may have intended. What happened in your past and who are you trying to convince that you're okay being on your own?
What does that even mean? Being on your own? Nobody is alone. There are 6 billion people in this world, how can someone be lonely simply because they are not in a relationship? "My other half" like I'm not a complete individual own my own and without a GF I'm supposed to feel incomplete? that's ridiculous. Am I (myself) not good enough for myself?
sometimes when you have been in so many unhealthy relationships you get to that point.
I mean once I get out of this marriage a I am NOT getting married again.Seriously. I hate marriage, i hate the person i married..what he has become. I just need some peace and you can only have that within yourself. So i can understand the op
Too many times I've seen people refer to their spouse as their "soul mate." I find it comical that these soul mates usually live only within a 30 minute drive from each other. 6 billion people in this world and you just happened to find your soul mate, not only in the same state, but in the same county? What are the chances of that happening? In order to find this soul mate, I would think that more effort would be required to accomplish this. What if you found another person? This would be your soul mate? That takes away the purpose of this so called soul mate if you can use it on any individual you are in love with? How do you know that another person exists who would be more compatible? There is a general belief in reincarnation that sometimes an individual will live through several lifetimes until he finally meets his soul mate. Maybe this soul mate existed in the past, before you were even born, and you are both going to meet in another lifetime. You don't have to believe in reincarnation to get the point of where I am going with this. To find your soul mate, you might have to travel to other states, maybe even other countries and it can take years of effort.
Too many times I've seen people refer to their spouse as their "soul mate." I find it comical that these soul mates usually live only within a 30 minute drive from each other. 6 billion people in this world and you just happened to find your soul mate, not only in the same state, but in the same county? What are the chances of that happening? In order to find this soul mate, I would think that more effort would be required to accomplish this. What if you found another person? This would be your soul mate? That takes away the purpose of this so called soul mate if you can use it on any individual you are in love with? How do you know that another person exists who would be more compatible? There is a general belief in reincarnation that sometimes an individual will live through several lifetimes until he finally meets his soul mate. Maybe this soul mate existed in the past, before you were even born, and you are both going to meet in another lifetime. You don't have to believe in reincarnation to get the point of where I am going with this. To find your soul mate, you might have to travel to other states, maybe even other countries and it can take years of effort.
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Too many times I've seen people refer to their spouse as their "soul mate." I find it comical that these soul mates usually live only within a 30 minute drive from each other. 6 billion people in this world and you just happened to find your soul mate, not only in the same state, but in the same county? What are the chances of that happening? In order to find this soul mate, I would think that more effort would be required to accomplish this. What if you found another person? This would be your soul mate? That takes away the purpose of this so called soul mate if you can use it on any individual you are in love with? How do you know that another person exists who would be more compatible? There is a general belief in reincarnation that sometimes an individual will live through several lifetimes until he finally meets his soul mate. Maybe this soul mate existed in the past, before you were even born, and you are both going to meet in another lifetime. You don't have to believe in reincarnation to get the point of where I am going with this. To find your soul mate, you might have to travel to other states, maybe even other countries and it can take years of effort.
I don't know so much about 'soul mates', whatever people prefer to call the one they love is their business. But I do believe that God, Fate, Destiny, whatever you prefer, places things before us, places us where we need to be, when we need to be there, for whatever reason. It's like someone handing you a gift; Whether or not you take that gift, what you do with that gift--whether it be use it, abandon it, reject it--is totally up to you. Personally, I think most of us don't recognize a blessing when it hits us so it's no surprise for me to see people come to a point like this in their lives. It's all about the choices we make and have made that bring us where we are now. We can blame no one but ourselves.
What does that even mean? Being on your own? Nobody is alone. There are 6 billion people in this world, how can someone be lonely simply because they are not in a relationship? "My other half" like I'm not a complete individual own my own and without a GF I'm supposed to feel incomplete? that's ridiculous. Am I (myself) not good enough for myself?
You use very negative terms and descriptions about relationships which leads me to believe that you are not choosing to be alone because you want to be, but rather you had a bad experience that has jaded you to relationships. If you were just happy on your own without someone, you wouldn't need to denigrate relationships as being in slavery.
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You use very negative terms and descriptions about relationships which leads me to believe that you are not choosing to be alone because you want to be, but rather you had a bad experience that has jaded you to relationships. If you were just happy on your own without someone, you wouldn't need to denigrate relationships as being in slavery.
That's about the size of it. (Great. Now I have a sesame street song stuck in my head )
I'm 27 male, I don't want to have a GF or have kids or get married, I'm not the sensitive, emotional type of guy you will ever see in public holding hands, cuddling, etc... That's not my style. I'm heterosexual but I don't want to be in a relationship because that's not what I desire, actually, it will only waste my time and energy, being forced in a commitment I don't want to be, plus I save money by not being in a relationship and I don't have to worry about drama like breaking up, cheating, arguments, I don't need another person to make myself feel complete, I'm my own person, I feel confident enough about myself instead of seeking someone to rely on, I have freedom to do what I want when I want without being interrogated with questions asked by some GF, sex is also not important to me, I rather spend my time reading or doing something more productive with my time, I don't want to be a follower and procreate, I see no point of having kids, why would I want to be someone's personal slave? I won't put myself in that situation. Anyone else here who feels the same or similar?
Sounds like you had a bad experience growing up. You seem to believe that having a relationship equates to pain (breaking up, cheating, arguments). It's obvious that you learned this as a child and have not been able to heal from your pain of being caught in the middle of a bad relationship between your mother and father (and/or "partners").
Being self-sufficient is fine. But I believe it is the natural desire of all living things to be loved. By fighting that desire you may believe you are protecting yourself from the hurt but in fact you are insulting yourself from the joys as well. Of course, that is your decision to make. If you are truly happy with your life, then you don't need any of us to validate that decision for you - as you have done by coming here and asking your questions.
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Seriously. I hate marriage, i hate the person i married..what he has become. I just need some peace and you can only have that within yourself. So i can understand the op
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