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I'm 27 male, I don't want to have a GF or have kids or get married, I'm not the sensitive, emotional type of guy you will ever see in public holding hands, cuddling, etc... That's not my style. I'm heterosexual but I don't want to be in a relationship because that's not what I desire, actually, it will only waste my time and energy, being forced in a commitment I don't want to be, plus I save money by not being in a relationship and I don't have to worry about drama like breaking up, cheating, arguments, I don't need another person to make myself feel complete, I'm my own person, I feel confident enough about myself instead of seeking someone to rely on, I have freedom to do what I want when I want without being interrogated with questions asked by some GF, sex is also not important to me, I rather spend my time reading or doing something more productive with my time, I don't want to be a follower and procreate, I see no point of having kids, why would I want to be someone's personal slave? I won't put myself in that situation. Anyone else here who feels the same or similar?
When I was 25 I was saying a lot of the same things you just did. I didn't care if I had a GF or not. Never wanted kids, never wanted to get married blah blah blah. Wanted my freedom, my own money and didn't care what people thought..
Well here I am at 36. I've been through 20+ women and finally found someone I want to spend my life with and to top it off she has a 7 yr old boy. We've been together 6 yrs and I can't think of a world without the two of them.
It's good that you are spending this time focused on yourself. Many people get involved in relationships too soon and never really find themselves, never know who they are or what they are capable of and I can't tell you how important it is to be a complete person before you get involved with someone else.
I hear what you're saying and completely understand where you are coming from today but I will say to you the same thing that people said to me years ago. You will change your mind. Life will change you and you will stumble on the perfect companion when you are least looking for it. Family will be come important the older you get and that could bring along the want for kids.. You just never know...
I'm 27 male, I don't want to have a GF or have kids or get married, I'm not the sensitive, emotional type of guy you will ever see in public holding hands, cuddling, etc... That's not my style. I'm heterosexual but I don't want to be in a relationship because that's not what I desire, actually, it will only waste my time and energy, being forced in a commitment I don't want to be, plus I save money by not being in a relationship and I don't have to worry about drama like breaking up, cheating, arguments, I don't need another person to make myself feel complete, I'm my own person, I feel confident enough about myself instead of seeking someone to rely on, I have freedom to do what I want when I want without being interrogated with questions asked by some GF, sex is also not important to me, I rather spend my time reading or doing something more productive with my time, I don't want to be a follower and procreate, I see no point of having kids, why would I want to be someone's personal slave? I won't put myself in that situation. Anyone else here who feels the same or similar?
I agree with you completely. I am in the same state of mind as you are. Many women are also way overrated anyway and are not worth your trouble.
Last edited by DepressedKid; 10-20-2011 at 11:50 AM..
actually, yes, it does!
a type of narcisissm is created when folks create a bubble around themselves, not allowing others in, and not giving of themselves, either.
Think about it more philosophically. His concerns are only about what he wants and feels, his own reality he creates that he does not want to involve with another.
Look it up.
Look it up? Gladly:
Narcissism-
Quote:
inordinate fascination with oneself; excessive self-love; vanity; erotic gratification derived from admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes, being a normal condition at the infantile level of personality development.
Being a loner doesn't automatically make a person fascinated with their self, self-loving, vain, or admiring their self. Some people prefer to be alone. If you truly believe that makes one a narcissist, you're delusional.
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