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Actually I did go out and find my own happiness and got married also. Sorry if it felt like the intention of my initial post was to get pity from people here.
No, I didn't take it as you looking for pity at all. I genuinely took it as you having unresolved feelings about the situation and you needing to be able to let it go, because you did nothing "wrong." You made one of the many life decisions that we all have to make from time to time, and then ponder later as to the wisdom of the decision. Sometimes there simply is no "right or wrong" answer. But you are both happily married now it seems- so I'd say that in the end you chose well. I'm glad you found your life mate!
Well, maybe not pity, but to register on a forum in order to post just this specific thread indicates you still have unresolved feelings for this person...
I feel it's more that I'm curious what would have been (either good or bad) had I made the opposite decision.
Like what if my parent's hadn't moved me to a different city. How would have my life turned out differently kind of scenario.
I guess I can be too curious for my own good. You know the old saying, "curiousity killed the cat".
No, I didn't take it as you looking for pity at all. I genuinely took it as you having unresolved feelings about the situation and you needing to be able to let it go, because you did nothing "wrong." You made one of the many life decisions that we all have to make from time to time, and then ponder later as to the wisdom of the decision. Sometimes there simply is no "right or wrong" answer. But you are both happily married now it seems- so I'd say that in the end you chose well. I'm glad you found your life mate!
There are always those little experiences you wonder about, just don't get too caught up in it.
I've let people go for, not necessarily money reasons, but more so us both being young and unestablished - as in not knowing how or where we would live in order to stay together and make it work.
It's like you hit that fork in the road, and you knew it was coming...
That kind of practicality can be a blessing when it comes to love relationships, because surely one person is completely nuts head over heels, not thinking clearly, and someone has to be realistic & decisive in these situations.
Like I said, just a glimpse. It would make this really tough decision, right now, so much easier.
I get where you are coming from...I really do!
BUT...I don't think I'd want to know still. I mean it would be nice to know, but it's kind of like peeking at the Christmas gifts...what you you get this glimpse and it's not what you wanted?
Or what if it is and now the surprise is ruined and the path that leads you there is rushed. Sometimes it's the journey that makes it all worthwhile.
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