How to tell if someone is interested in you or if you're just in the infamous 'friend zone' (dating, woman)
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I've been interested in this guy for quite some time now. He's my friends old roommate and the last time I saw him was about 2-3 months ago until last night. The last time we hung out we drank a whole bottle of vodka and talked. Which was nice except neither of us really remember what we talked about haha. All I remember is him gauging my ears, us sitting in his old room on the floor under a small lamp looking at old books. We both have a pretty high tolerance for alcohol so we remember most parts just not necessarily what we talked about. I ended up sleeping on the couch and he slept on the floor next to me. The next morning he left at around 6.00 for well, about 2 months. I saw him yesterday for the first time since then. It was great. We just hung out at his new place. He made himself coffee and made me some tea. We talked and listened to music and laid on his bed for a few hours.
I'm the worst person to catch any signals as I don't have much...if any... experience with guys. But I know there's always been SOME sort of connection.
The problem.
When he was gone for that time I was hanging out with the other old roommates who were also guys. I had good conversation with one of them and we just kind of hit it off and ended up dating him for a month. I broke up with him because I felt like we were to much like 'buddies' and honestly...I had NO physical attraction to him WHATSOEVER. Although looks aren't the biggest thing I rely on... physical attraction is very important in any relationship. Now...Later in the evening he brought it up and said he heard it from 2 of the mutual friends.. I said it just felt like we were buddies and I felt terrible because he's an amazing guy but being buddies isn't what I want for a relationship. They haven't seen each other in awhile but they're like brothers...
The other problem.
He's going to Ecuador December 1st to teach English to kids. -_- what a guy right *sigh* I'm so happy for him and he wants to give so much to people but at the same time I died a little inside when he told me that. (over exaggerating a good deal but it still made me pretty sad)
Do I have a chance with him even if it is for a short time or do you think because I dated his friend there's no chance at all?
Thanks! It didn't help to much since I've never told him how I feel and we've never kissed or done anything before. Though I could reflect on it since I was almost in that same situation in the beginning of this year. Boy was juts "goin with the flow" so I just moved on. Hope everything worked out & thanks for sharing I appreciate it!
Based on what you've written it seems he's interested in you for something. It's hard to determine whether it's just for sex or for something more. What do you want out of it knowing he will be leaving in less than 2 months? Ask yourself if it's worth it...
Provide more descriptions of your interactions and him in general. Don't tell us your feelings, thoughts or opinions. Tell us conversations you've had and the physical contact you've made.
Based on what you've written it seems he's interested in you for something. It's hard to determine whether it's just for sex or for something more. What do you want out of it knowing he will be leaving in less than 2 months? Ask yourself if it's worth it...
Provide more descriptions of your interactions and him in general. Don't tell us your feelings, thoughts or opinions. Tell us conversations you've had and the physical contact you've made.
We've only hung out a couple of times in groups. This last night was the first time we actually hung out together other than the night we hung out with a group of friends and eventually going off to the other house alone together talking and what not. We haven't done anything. We have nice conversations, we have a lot in common etc. The only physical contact has been just like sitting close to on another...He's played with my hair a few times... But other than than physical contact is non existent. I feel like we have a connection but I can't tell if he doesn't want to do anything because I dated his friend for a little bit or because he doesn't like me
I'm the worst person to catch any signals as I don't have much...if any... experience with guys. But I know there's always been SOME sort of connection.
I can honestly name hundreds of times when I have thought a woman was into me because of signals.
This runs the gamut from a simple smile from a stranger to a woman I knew very well going out of her way to cancel plans with a good friend to hang out with me.
I've been rejected just about every single time.
The only way to find out is next time you are hanging out with him, try to kiss him on the lips.
It takes a tough stomach, but....
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