Why do people think that getting married and/or having kids makes you mature or more mature? (family, children)

[The Dissenter]

Originally Posted by Raena77

Have a child. It is a whole new world that no one knows until they see it for themselves.

No thanks. I'm already having enough trouble figuring the career world. Don't want another one to figure out.

[the_windwalker]

It may not make you more mature, but it certainly ages you.

[*Sixy*]

Originally Posted by Texas User

Why do people think that getting married and/or having kids makes you mature or more mature?


I don't agree with this.

You could be Single with no kids and be very responsible, educated and have lot of experience in life OR you could be married with kids and be broke, not caring, lazy, etc. I could go on and on.

Discuss

I've never heard of this. Who are these people that say marriage and children make you more mature???

[*Sixy*]

Originally Posted by dnvrsoul

Take a look at our divorce rate-this shows you how immature people are-it takes a mature person to want to work through problems

I'm going to assume you are talking of marriages that disolve because someone is bored or has lost interest and NOT those where abuse, neglect or infidelity are factors.

If someone chose to end a marriage for the latter reasons, I wouldn't consider them immature and I wouldn't expect that they work through it either.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by Texas User

Yet, older generatiions think getting married is a key to happiness.

That's a pretty broad generalization, and not necessarily accurate.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by Texas User

You can also grow up real fast without kids though.

Not usually, unless there is some impetus for it - a parent with cancer, death of a sibling, some other huge event. Otherwise most people continue to grow and mature at a slower pace all through early to mid 20's.

[Texas User]

Originally Posted by Alanboy395

I would say having children reaches a benchmark of maturity in our current society along with marriage, buying a house, etc.

Buying a house when foreclosures are at all-time high?

People buying too much house when they knew they could not afford is mature?

What if you are moving around?

Your primary home is not exactly an 'investment'. Lots of factors here.

[Texas User]

Originally Posted by cpg35223

Why? Because you can't be in a successful marriage and be immature.

But you can be unhappy in that marriage.

[Texas User]

Originally Posted by Raena77

Have a child. It is a whole new world that no one knows until they see it for themselves.

Also use your brain before having one which means finances and how you will raise that child.

Why do you think there is so much poverty?

[Texas User]

Originally Posted by Alanboy395

No thanks. I'm already having enough trouble figuring the career world. Don't want another one to figure out.

Anyone can have a child. Career is pretty much a one shot opportunity and it can be unique and exciting.

I rather be pursueing my career; then sit at home and take care of that child, that is boring.