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If a single dad dates a woman without kids, is it her moral obligation to help him out financially? If your answer is "no," then the same should apply if the situation were reversed.
Personally? Absolutely not. He has no obligation to her children.
I'd like everyone's opinion, but mainly this question is for any single women with kids, and single men who might date women who have kids.
Here's my feeling on it. Call me old fashioned, but if a man makes the decision to exclusively date a woman who has 1 or more children, he has a moral OBLIGATION to help provide for her and her children.
She is making a sacrifice in giving him attention while she's already busy with her kids, so, him helping her with her expenses is the LEAST he can do. I feel he OWES it to her, if he is going to make good relationship material for her. YOU make relationship material, not your wallet paying her bills.
Thanks in advance for your feelings and thoughts on this!
I think it's great that you want to help her financially but to feel it is your "moral OBLIGATION" then, imo, you are wrong. What happens when she starts to take advantage of your generosity? If the father is not around to provide support and you want to help her when she's in a bind, that's one thing but if she is perfectly fine financially AND there's a father around to pay support, then I suggest you do not pay her bills. If you feel you want to splurge then maybe do a special night out or take her and her kids somewhere as a treat but DO NOT PAY HER BILLS.
I'd like everyone's opinion, but mainly this question is for any single women with kids, and single men who might date women who have kids.
Here's my feeling on it. Call me old fashioned, but if a man makes the decision to exclusively date a woman who has 1 or more children, he has a moral OBLIGATION to help provide for her and her children.
She is making a sacrifice in giving him attention while she's already busy with her kids, so, him helping her with her expenses is the LEAST he can do. I feel he OWES it to her, if he is going to make good relationship material for her.
Thanks in advance for your feelings and thoughts on this!
Which is why I would never date a women with kids.
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I'd like everyone's opinion, but mainly this question is for any single women with kids, and single men who might date women who have kids.
Here's my feeling on it. Call me old fashioned, but if a man makes the decision to exclusively date a woman who has 1 or more children, he has a moral OBLIGATION to help provide for her and her children.
She is making a sacrifice in giving him attention while she's already busy with her kids, so, him helping her with her expenses is the LEAST he can do. I feel he OWES it to her, if he is going to make good relationship material for her.
Thanks in advance for your feelings and thoughts on this!
Absolutely not. The guy don't owe the mother anything and supporting the family is squarely the girl's and the father of the kids' responsibility.
If I had a SO with a kid, um...I'd pay for outings like dinner and lunch, groceries and stuff on occasion but by no means will it become a habit. I get the "2 for 1" thing, but at the end of the day, it's not my kid, and if the father is being financially supportive, even better. There's no "moral obligation. She had a kid with another man, that man is no longer in the picture, now she has to raise a child. That's her, not me. I'd pinch in every now and then, but that's it.
Here's my feeling on it. Call me old fashioned, but if a man makes the decision to exclusively date a woman who has 1 or more children, he has a moral OBLIGATION to help provide for her and her children.
i agree, which is one reason why i don't date moms.
Oh my god no. I don't even know how to respond beyond that. You make the women sound like a martyr and the guy like her animal to obey as she states. WTF.
Simple answer: No. He may offer to help pay for a sitter when they go out, but that's as far as he should go. If they are living together, some assistance will no doubt occur just incidentally, but presumably she is receiving child support so you should not be providing direct support.
Bahahaha. No. A man is not obligated to help support the kids of a person he is dating - nor should he feel any obligation to.
Now, if the dating goes into longterm (moving in together, marriage, etc), then there should be a proper discussion what is to be "expected" from the non-parental unit towards the child(ren).
But casual dating? lolNo.
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