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I'd like everyone's opinion, but mainly this question is for any single women with kids, and single men who might date women who have kids.
Here's my feeling on it. Call me old fashioned, but if a man makes the decision to exclusively date a woman who has 1 or more children, he has a moral OBLIGATION to help provide for her and her children.
She is making a sacrifice in giving him attention while she's already busy with her kids, so, him helping her with her expenses is the LEAST he can do. I feel he OWES it to her, if he is going to make good relationship material for her.
Thanks in advance for your feelings and thoughts on this!
That is far from the truth. The FATHER should be taking care of his kids. As a mother of 2 kids that is dating, I don't even attempt to think or want a man that I'm dating to be a provider. It's not his responsibility. He is not even responsible to take care of me. Now, if he physically WANTS to help, that's different.
If they get married that MAY turn into a different issue. But it is still a option and not a requirement. As a married couple, you are now a family unit and should take care of the family but that doesn't replace that the father is suppose to take care of the children.
I'd like everyone's opinion, but mainly this question is for any single women with kids, and single men who might date women who have kids.
Here's my feeling on it. Call me old fashioned, but if a man makes the decision to exclusively date a woman who has 1 or more children, he has a moral OBLIGATION to help provide for her and her children.
She is making a sacrifice in giving him attention while she's already busy with her kids, so, him helping her with her expenses is the LEAST he can do. I feel he OWES it to her, if he is going to make good relationship material for her.
Thanks in advance for your feelings and thoughts on this!
If they are just casually dating then I don't think he's responsible. If it's a serious or long term relationship: Eating at the house? Sleeping at the house? Using utilities? Yes. He needs to be contributing to the household, since he's partly draining the expenses.
People are jumping on the OP but there are plenty of women in the world who thinks the kids come along with the woman. Yes even when dating.
The thing is people take dating way too serious. When dating there's no commitment no matter how "exclusive" people want to make it. Until there's a ring there's nothing implied. So her or his kids are the parents responsibility. Ask this. If the guy she is dating (no kids) doesn't have his car payment and she does, should she make the payment for him?
The only person in a relationship who has rights is a spouse. A boy friend or girlfriend has no rights to demand anything. If people want rights put a ring on the finger. Yes it's that simple.
People are jumping on the OP but there are plenty of women in the world who thinks the kids come along with the woman. Yes even when dating.
The thing is people take dating way too serious. When dating there's no commitment no matter how "exclusive" people want to make it. Until there's a ring there's nothing implied. So her or his kids are the parents responsibility. Ask this. If the guy she is dating (no kids) doesn't have his car payment and she does, should she make the payment for him?
The only person in a relationship who has rights is a spouse. A boy friend or girlfriend has no rights to demand anything. If people want rights put a ring on the finger. Yes it's that simple.
Yup, she can at least offer half. If they are dating exclusively or in a LTR they should be helping EACH OTHER. That doesn't mean playing sugar daddy/mommy for the person's bills. Until there's a ring? Some people don't want to get married, so I guess their 5 or 6 relationship is never 'serious' then since there's no ring?
Edit: I read too fast and missed the part where he has no kids, then that's different IMO. I thought you meant he's a single dad. If not, then I would think he would have the money for his insurance.
If the single mother wants the guy she's dating to be basically be "Dad" then she needs to have that conversation with him. The moral obligation to provide for children is on the mother and father, not the mother and the guy she's dating.
Back in my online dating days I once had a single mom ask me "Are you ready to be a daddy?" I was pretty taken aback by the question since I hadn't even met her. I appreciated her honesty, but I felt like there aren't many people who are ready to say yes on the spot to being a parent.
In the end it all comes down to communication. The single parent shouldn't just expect his/her SO to provide for the child.
Back in my online dating days I once had a single mom ask me "Are you ready to be a daddy?" I was pretty taken aback by the question since I hadn't even met her. I appreciated her honesty, but I felt like there aren't many people who are ready to say yes on the spot to being a parent.
Wow! That's kinda jumping the gun, yes? How did you respond?
Wow! That's kinda jumping the gun, yes? How did you respond?
I just said no, I'm not ready. I may have included something about liking kids but not being ready to be a father to one. Surprisingly she still wanted to chat after that but we never met up.
I'd like everyone's opinion, but mainly this question is for any single women with kids, and single men who might date women who have kids.
Here's my feeling on it. Call me old fashioned, but if a man makes the decision to exclusively date a woman who has 1 or more children, he has a moral OBLIGATION to help provide for her and her children.
She is making a sacrifice in giving him attention while she's already busy with her kids, so, him helping her with her expenses is the LEAST he can do. I feel he OWES it to her, if he is going to make good relationship material for her.
Thanks in advance for your feelings and thoughts on this!
Depends on the relationship, but I don't think he's 'obligated' or 'owes' it to her.
I went out once with a woman who had a daughter where the ex wasn't in the picture at all. I usually paid for everyone if we went out together, but that was because I had more money. I also was willing to do this because I cared for her (and her daughter was a great kid) and she had money problems. But I didn't feel like I 'owed' her or that I was 'obligated', rather that I felt as a good bf I should be receptive to her needs and responsibilities.
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