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I don't know what other voodoo spells she casts...
I think Sierra is spot on in her assessment, but then maybe I'm just grasping for some logical explanation.
I think that there are some guys who don't feel like "real men" unless they're rescuing someone, and this particular girl fits their bill. But like you said, these aren't typically the type of guy you'd be drawn to, and that's probably for a very good reason. You have different standards, and you probably have more respect for a man who wants a woman who can stand on her own two feet. I have -0- respect for men who allow themselves to be used like that. And I suspect that men feel the same way about girls who go after "loser" guys.
I've been proposed to several times, but this is not to say that I said "yes." In my case, the guys were the LifePlan (TM) types. You know, date six months, get married, buy a house in the 'burbs, have a couple of kids, don't really think about any of it too deeply. I don't think that they really wanted to marry me, per se — they just wanted to get married — and I can sniff that stuff out right away.
I think that there are some guys who don't feel like "real men" unless they're rescuing someone, and this particular girl fits their bill. But like you said, these aren't typically the type of guy you'd be drawn to, and that's probably for a very good reason. You have different standards, and you probably have more respect for a man who wants a woman who can stand on her own two feet. I have -0- respect for men who allow themselves to be used like that. And I suspect that men feel the same way about girls who go after "loser" guys.
Yes, this is true. I am not jealous of her because I don't want what she has, especially not on those terms. Even though these are not bad guys & they generally treat her well, I wouldn't call their relationship healthy at all. And honestly, who knows if a marriage would really last for her anyway. 2 years is not THAT long to put up with all of her problems.
Yes, this is true. I am not jealous of her because I don't want what she has, especially not on those terms. Even though these are not bad guys & they generally treat her well, I wouldn't call their relationship healthy at all. And honestly, who knows if a marriage would really last for her anyway. 2 years is not THAT long to put up with all of her problems.
A relationship in which one partner is always saving the other isn't healthy, so you've got that exactly right. These relationships seem to smack of "daddy issues" to me for the most part, women who are looking to a man to provide what they can't go out and get for themselves. Men like that wouldn't find me too intriguing, I fear!
They just seem to find desperate men. Nothing to it. Desperate men for desperate women.
If a guy whom I was with for 2 weeks asked me to marry him I would say no.
But there are too many variables. Older men seem to want to marry faster than young guys. Wayyy faster.
All the guys my age that I dated never ever wanted to marry,or commit for that matter.
Also,the users wanted to marry faster than the men who had their own house,car,and a great job.
Same thing with unattractive guys wanting to marry quickly,while the attractive ladies man types seemed to drag their feet.
Oh come on.......look at those people. I've seen every one of them at Wal-Mart,
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Meanwhile other women cannot get a man to commit to exclusivity, not to mention marriage?
What is it about certain women that make men so quick to "wife them down", meanwhile other women are plagued by players and commitment phobes.
I've wondered about this phenomenon off and on, and seeing this story today made me wonder (yeah I know it has some Jerry Springer ish, but still 5 times!!!)..
It is a combination of looks combined with the ability to convince men that she has it together. Women who marry repeatedly apparently cannot convince men for long.
The era of the helpless airhead ended when it became necessary for more than 95% of men to have a wife with a good income of her own.
They just seem to find desperate men. Nothing to it. Desperate men for desperate women.
If a guy whom I was with for 2 weeks asked me to marry him I would say no.
But there are too many variables. Older men seem to want to marry faster than young guys. Wayyy faster.
All the guys my age that I dated never ever wanted to marry,or commit for that matter.
Also,the users wanted to marry faster than the men who had their own house,car,and a great job.
Same thing with unattractive guys wanting to marry quickly,while the attractive ladies man types seemed to drag their feet.
Yep- a LOT of "loser" men will rush to charm and declare love for a girl QUICK, ESPECIALLY a younger one who has it all together herself. He will push to move in and marry her so he doesnt have to face his own **** alone. Especially as they get older (in their 50's and up) they REALLY want a younger girl to play "Nurse and a Purse" since they know what little social security they might get is eaten up by back child support and tax liens- so they look to quickly lock down a naive female in order to escape their problems and have someone to take care of them in their old age- especially since losers don't tend to have retirement savings or anything- they will "Love" the right lady that can put a roof over his head and food in his belly since he is too lazy to WORK for it like a real man should.
What I call a "loser"? Men who haven't gotten their life together for YEARS (not just a "bad spot")-meaning chronically unemployed for YEARS, horrible credit, no home of their own (typically living with an ex claiming "its just until i can afford to get my own place" or with a relative), loads of back child support, no car due to DWI or whatever their excuse was- and they NEVER bothered to even TRY to pay to fix their problems they just ignore them!)
I didn't think that those in Council Housing got married.
Is it the economic uncertainty?
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