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I love my BF, we are a committed, LTR couple. I don't want to live with him, and I don't want to marry him. He feels the same way about me. It is what it is....two people who are very happy together, dinner, drinks, quiet walks, romance. Does it need to "go anywhere" else? We are happy.
It all depends on personal priorities, age, and place in life...
Long term relationships with no end goal is just two people that are both looking for a better deal, but too afraid to be alone while they are doing it, so they engage in a mutually enjoyed facade and charade of having a boyfriend or girlfriend - while never investing much of themselves into the relationship and always keeping their radar on for something better.
Long term relationships with no end goal is just two people that are both looking for a better deal, but too afraid to be alone while they are doing it, so they engage in a mutually enjoyed facade and charade of having a boyfriend or girlfriend - while never investing much of themselves into the relationship and always keeping their radar on for something better.
Speak for yourself. You certainly don't speak for me.
The OPs question is a non question. There is no such thing as "engaging in a LTR", because a relationship doesn't become a LTR until a long period of time has elapsed.
Which goes to my point, that people "set off" with a preconceived idea of what something will be before it is.
Between 1 day and, say 6 months, there is nothing to distinguish (relationship wise) between a couple who plan to get married and have children, with a couple who are just having a good time and fooling around. I know in their minds there will be different thoughts, but what they do and how they are with each other, is essentially the same.
Yep. All true. Kinda makes you wonder how people manage day-to-day living when they come up with questions like this.
Long term relationships with no end goal is just two people that are both looking for a better deal, but too afraid to be alone while they are doing it, so they engage in a mutually enjoyed facade and charade of having a boyfriend or girlfriend - while never investing much of themselves into the relationship and always keeping their radar on for something better.
This is so completely way off base!!! So you're trying to tell me that just because you get married people turn their "radars" off??
News flash!! Obviously they don't and that's why millions and millions of people cheat on their marriages!!
Getting married doesn't mean CRAP!! When will people finally wake the F up about this statement??
I don't know. Some people say no harm and no foul. You're enjoying this person. The other side of the argument is if you KNOW you want to be someone's wife and this other person has all this "new age", "no label", etc. b.s. then what's the point? In the world of karma/energy, you are allowing someone to take up a residence in your heart thus blocking your energy from being available to others.
I personally wouldn't date someone I knew was adamantly against living together or a committed relationship some time in the future, but the no legal marriage stipulation wouldn't bother me. As for it in general being "Ok", why not? Just hope you find someone who truly, honestly sees it the way you do and doesn't just pretend.
I personally wouldn't date someone I knew was adamantly against living together or a committed relationship some time in the future, but the no legal marriage stipulation wouldn't bother me. As for it in general being "Ok", why not? Just hope you find someone who truly, honestly sees it the way you do and doesn't just pretend.
I would advise to do more than just hope you meet someone who feels that way. I would not give a person who does not share my view of the future a lot of my time anyway.
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