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Old 03-16-2012, 11:45 AM
 
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I started doing online dating about 3 years ago because I felt like I didn't get much opportunity with my lifestyle to meet nice, kind, flexible, relationship-minded women. I've had my ups and downs, but ultimately after using match, okcupid, and eharmony...I just don't feel like I'm meeting the types of women I'm interested in.

I'm going to give dating a break for a while, I've gotten better at asking women out in person because the more I've been hurt the easier it has gotten to approach women. I think I'm just going to stop trying to get dates and just take the opportunities to meet women as they cross my path rather than try to create the opportunities myself. It will be hard because I'm a proactive guy, I don't like to sit back and live life on the sidelines, but summer is coming up and that's the best time of year in this city so I'm excited for a lot of other things. New job, new apartment, new car, new baseball team, learning guitar....I've got a lot of great things going on right now to focus on.

I just want to thank those who have offered me sound insight in the past and if there's any other advice on how to meet women or strategies to approach them in public then I'm always open to suggestion. Hope everyone is enjoying the NCAA Tournament!!
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Old 03-16-2012, 12:11 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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Also, I believe there is a lot to the movie Yes man. Become a yes man. You will learn quickly that going out drinking with your buddies on a tuesday before work at 6am MIGHT actually pay off.

I started saying yes to anything I was invited to that I was available to attend. One of those nights, I ended up meeting a great girl through a friend. Best of luck!
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Old 03-16-2012, 12:18 PM
 
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I think I'm just going to stop trying to get dates and just take the opportunities to meet women as they cross my path rather than try to create the opportunities myself.
This is fantastic! Many a poster on this forum could benefit from adopting this attitude. I am talking about all the guys who moan about not having a girlfriend when they have never even had a girl friend.

Bravo! I know you will be successful so please post about it here!
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Old 03-16-2012, 02:47 PM
 
Location: USA
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Good luck to you Chi-turtle.
I have also pulled my profile. Online dating (in my area at least) is not for me.
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Old 03-16-2012, 02:51 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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I started doing online dating about 3 years ago because I felt like I didn't get much opportunity with my lifestyle to meet nice, kind, flexible, relationship-minded women. I've had my ups and downs, but ultimately after using match, okcupid, and eharmony...I just don't feel like I'm meeting the types of women I'm interested in.

I'm going to give dating a break for a while, I've gotten better at asking women out in person because the more I've been hurt the easier it has gotten to approach women. I think I'm just going to stop trying to get dates and just take the opportunities to meet women as they cross my path rather than try to create the opportunities myself. It will be hard because I'm a proactive guy, I don't like to sit back and live life on the sidelines, but summer is coming up and that's the best time of year in this city so I'm excited for a lot of other things. New job, new apartment, new car, new baseball team, learning guitar....I've got a lot of great things going on right now to focus on.

I just want to thank those who have offered me sound insight in the past and if there's any other advice on how to meet women or strategies to approach them in public then I'm always open to suggestion. Hope everyone is enjoying the NCAA Tournament!!
I like your attitude

I'm sure someone who's got so much going for them will attract the right women in time
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Old 03-16-2012, 03:03 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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This is fantastic! Many a poster on this forum could benefit from adopting this attitude. I am talking about all the guys who moan about not having a girlfriend when they have never even had a girl friend.

Bravo! I know you will be successful so please post about it here!
Mmm Yeah. Sounds good in theory.

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Old 03-16-2012, 03:05 PM
 
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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Good attitude! I still have a few more months on my match subscription, so I'm not willing to throw in the towel yet.
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Old 03-16-2012, 09:30 PM
 
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I also second your attitude and am planning on doing the same. My chaotic schedule is due to let up in 2 months, so I hope to take on a bunch of new activities and explore my new surroundings and meet more people the old fashioned way. I'm not happy with the selection of online guys and prefer meeting people in public through similar interests anyway. Best of luck to you and all the single people on here who want to meet people the old fashioned way!

Just keep an open, positive attitude and be nice to the ladies you meet, even if you're not interested in them. Just because you're not interested in her doesn't mean that she doesn't have a friend who she may think could be a match. If I meet a nice single guy and am not interested in him, I immediately think of single friends who might like him. I'm a sucker for nice guys and nice girls, so I always want to connect good people. So keep that in mind!
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Old 03-16-2012, 10:19 PM
 
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You sound like a nice catch: great attitude, proactive, stable job, your own car, interesting hobbies, and stable finances I assume. You should have no problem meeting women. Good luck.
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Old 03-19-2012, 01:38 PM
 
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Thank you for the kind words, but all this effort to improve myself will not be for any purpose of increasing my chances to find someone down the road. This is no longer something I'm doing, period. I'm doing things for myself and only myself, I am not taking in any kind of consideration for finding someone in the future. It's too much work and only ends in pain.
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