Is experiencing 'love' a bad idea for me? I already feel pain. It hurts.

[MsAnnThrope]

It's all part of the glorious tapestry of being alive.

Love and pain often go together...it's part of being human. You can't experience one without the other.

You can either sit in your safe nest and build up more walls, or you can say "I want to experience EVERYTHING life has to offer".

Feeling something is better than feeling nothing at all.

[stephei2000]

Originally Posted by MsAnnThrope

It's all part of the glorious tapestry of being alive.

Love and pain often go together...it's part of being human. You can't experience one without the other.

You can either sit in your safe nest and build up more walls, or you can say "I want to experience EVERYTHING life has to offer".

Feeling something is better than feeling nothing at all.

That is not always true. Some the pain can take over and wished you felt nothing or erases any good that happened.

[IH8HumanResources]

Originally Posted by Beilua Rose

I'm in my early 20's. I've never had a true, serious relationship. I'm still a virgin and consider myself to be emotionally distant. One thing that I have always known about myself is that I am petrified of relationships, especially romantically connected relationships.

Well, I met a boy. He has a girlfriend who he says he loves VERY much, yet they've been dating for 1.5 years and at this point are constantly fighting. I met this guy at work and we have since known eachother for about three months. He constantly hugs me, picks me up and talks to me like he cares. He texts me and tells me that he is excited to work with me. I look in his eyes and feel my heart hurt.

Of course, me being a pessimist I found myself doubting his affection and figuring it out as a convenience for him. He has made advances towards me before, he's never inappropriately touched me but he has said that I am "gorgeous" or "hot". I ignored him because I don't like to be talked to like that.

He always talked about coming over to my place after work and finally I allowed him to and he stood me up. It hurt. Badly!

How do I not take his flirtatious actions as serious when he knows how to emotionally and mentally engage me. Why does it hurt so much and I am not even going out with him. What is wrong with me?

be glad you don't have to initiate because social-skills are not as important for girls as they are for guys