Men: How do you deal with excessive female flaking? (married, younger, kid)
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I've never had any luck at all pursuing women. Almost every successful relationship or dating experiences have come from girls pursuing me. You have to get yourself in a position where they pursue you. From there just setup dates so you both can have a good time.
2. I didn't care cause I had family stuff to do anyway
3. was light night and I called her out...after I called her she never responded it sucks cause I liked this girl but this is what dating has become, you have to treat the opposite sex like trash
IF all you are getting is crumbs then you are shooting out of your league. Its really that simple. If a woman is interested she will not act like this.
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Originally Posted by Trimac20
When a man is used to getting crumbs, he doesn't give up easily!
That's the problem. I tell myself, 'I will not be desperate', but I can't help but cling on when I know I may not have another chance in a very, very long time.
I really don't care. Most of them are one time meets anyway. There was this guy though on POF whom I've never met. Who kept on postponing our meets. I remember he ask if it's ok he kept postponing. I said I don't mind. He replied like an a-hole I remember like - really wow and I forgot the rest coz I remember I got taken aback by his rudeness.
He never contact me again. I honestly don't care though, LOL.
Then I remember I have another one I can still picture him up to now actually. He has kids. And he uses his kids everytime he cancels our meet. He even ask if I am annoyed. OR do I mind that he always put his kids first. And he said that's important to him that the girl she dates won't mind that.
I eventually block him, I told him if you cancel again, I will block you. Then he sent me long ass explanations I don't really care to know then block him. LOL.
I have found that you actually have more dates and less flaking. It should not take a rocket scientist for a guy to figure out where he falls in the pecking order. If you are a joe 6 pack and trying to date a woman who just barely got cut from being an under ware model then you should get used to flaking and rejection. Once you can dial in the type of woman who is most likely to be interested life gets a lot better. So much better, I have a friend I try to explain this too but surprisingly there are ALOT of guys that think well she is not a 9 or 10 so there for its not unreasonable that she should be interested even though she is a solid 8 and has tons of options.
I suppose when you don't know any better I can see guys doing this but I tell them don't waste too much time shooting for the woman who narrowly missed being an under ware model because we are not young forever and the best sex years for a guy are early on. don't waste it masturbating to porn while the object of your affection is busy texting her girl friend instead.
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Originally Posted by stepka
Apparently BJones doesn't care about that b/c he just wanted to get laid in the first place. So, according to the BJones school of thought, if she flakes, she'll never hear from him again, and if she likes him enough to hook up with him, she still probably won't hear from him again. Whatever.
People have a preconceived view of what they do and don't want in a partner--ain't just women dude. And if she's not into you, she's likelier to flake. If she is into you, she won't. Simple as that. If she flakes without calling first, she's not into you and you should walk after the first time. Because honestly, in this day of cellphone communications it would be really hard to believe that there wasn't some way to get hold of you. And me--I'm really forgetful about doing stuff, but I would not forget to go on a date with someone I really like. Just sayin'. Now if she calls first and something came up, yes a second chance would be appropriate.
I'm with MsAnnThrope: we, men and women, waste way too much time on folks who are throwing out signals that they're not totally interested and then we get the impression that those of the opposite sex are a bunch of douchebags. Stick with the ones who are into you and you'll have fewer dates but more sanity.
I have found that you actually have more dates and less flaking. It should not take a rocket scientist for a guy to figure out where he falls in the pecking order. If you are a joe 6 pack and trying to date a woman who just barely got cut from being an under ware model then you should get used to flaking and rejection. Once you can dial in the type of woman who is most likely to be interested life gets a lot better. So much better, I have a friend I try to explain this too but surprisingly there are ALOT of guys that think well she is not a 9 or 10 so there for its not unreasonable that she should be interested even though she is a solid 8 and has tons of options.
I suppose when you don't know any better I can see guys doing this but I tell them don't waste too much time shooting for the woman who narrowly missed being an under ware model because we are not young forever and the best sex years for a guy are early on. don't waste it masturbating to porn while the object of your affection is busy texting her girl friend instead.
I've known plenty of men who don't understand where they fall in terms of leagues, rather, they just go after women who they find attractive. There are plenty confident unattractive guys who don't care if the woman is a 8 9 whatever, they're just trying, men are conditioned to try and work hard to get what they want regardless of their looks.
I have found that you actually have more dates and less flaking. It should not take a rocket scientist for a guy to figure out where he falls in the pecking order. If you are a joe 6 pack and trying to date a woman who just barely got cut from being an under ware model then you should get used to flaking and rejection. Once you can dial in the type of woman who is most likely to be interested life gets a lot better. So much better, I have a friend I try to explain this too but surprisingly there are ALOT of guys that think well she is not a 9 or 10 so there for its not unreasonable that she should be interested even though she is a solid 8 and has tons of options.
I suppose when you don't know any better I can see guys doing this but I tell them don't waste too much time shooting for the woman who narrowly missed being an under ware model because we are not young forever and the best sex years for a guy are early on. don't waste it masturbating to porn while the object of your affection is busy texting her girl friend instead.
Agreed women wouldn't dare flake on Brad Pitt or Will Smith
Flaking is part of the game however the part that annoys me the most is how some women are so arrogant and they flakes and really believe that men are that dumb
"My Grandma had a heart attack"
or
"I can't make it"
a woman who was on here way and said she was 5 minutes away just to call me and tell me she was with another guy
I really don't care. Most of them are one time meets anyway. There was this guy though on POF whom I've never met. Who kept on postponing our meets. I remember he ask if it's ok he kept postponing. I said I don't mind. He replied like an a-hole I remember like - really wow and I forgot the rest coz I remember I got taken aback by his rudeness.
He never contact me again. I honestly don't care though, LOL.
Then I remember I have another one I can still picture him up to now actually. He has kids. And he uses his kids everytime he cancels our meet. He even ask if I am annoyed. OR do I mind that he always put his kids first. And he said that's important to him that the girl she dates won't mind that.
I eventually block him, I told him if you cancel again, I will block you. Then he sent me long ass explanations I don't really care to know then block him. LOL.
So you don't care? just teasing lol.
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just teasing lol.
