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She never claims she's nice here, but apparently she's a complete different person IRL. Why the need to be so different I don't know. She'll probably bight my head off for speculating, but I think in real life she's quite a lonely person, doesn't say much, is outwardly polite etc but probably wants more attention than she's letting on. I could be off base though.
not going to bite your head off trimac, as I said I do not have any problem with you. The need to be so different is obvious to me and I stated it before: people don't go around talking about most of these topics IRL that are posted here. Nobody IRL asks me what I think about the subject of 'mature virgins' and 'Relationship virgins,' LOL. Do people ask you that stuff?
If I was lonely I would get a roommate (which has been offered before), if I was lonely I would not have cut almost all of my friends off socially. I live by myself and do activities alone because I do not enjoy interactions the way most other people do. I get overstimulated, etc. (because of A.S. imo).
That's mostly true, although some people are more REAL here than IRL. In other words many posters here might know the real Trimac, or waka or DE better than some real life acquaintance.
I'm pretty much the same here as I am in real life, although probably more outwardly opinionated. I'm not an opinionated person about most things, but the things I am passionate about...
It's easy to be more real when you're anonymous. I'm the same for the most part, though I'm a bit more reserved IRL.
It's not just CD, but it really does seem that people who get to a ripe old age without ANY real experience with the opposite sex are becoming commoner than before. They've always existed, of course, but they were mostly in the shadows. We didn't hear their stories before the internet.etc. But I think in this modern age, there seems to be more barriers between communication between adults, and it's quite easy to be a pretty normal person, especially a man, and just get passed by. I even know some guys who are decently looking, sociable, who just never get there...it's quite amazing, really, how difficult it can be, especially for those who want 'true love' instead of a quick root.
30 year old virgins don't seem that uncommon, actually. I think it's related to the number of 'big kids' who never really grow up and never leave the nest, or get out. I know some personally online. As it becomes harder to meet people through the usual avenue, do you think this group will increase greatly? I don't think net dating really helps you all that much. I hear in Japan 25% of all 30 year old men and women are still virgins, or something like that, which seems incredibly high, but is not surprising considering how introverted Japanese society seems to be. Are we becoming like that?
P.S. I guess by 'mature age' virgins/RS virgins, I'm talking those over 25 who have never been in a relationship, or have never been intimate with someone of the opposite sex (or same sex if they're so inclined) not out of choice.
Way up thread, I mentioned the crippling effect of relying too much on technology for communication and porn for developing ideas of how to behave and what to expect in bed.
But I think you have a valid point in mentioning those who do not leave the nest. Back when I got out of college, in the 80s, my friends and I would have done just about anything to keep from moving back home. We wanted to be independent, and even if it meant living in a house with four other people, sharing an apartment with a roommate, or working two jobs, no way, no how, did we want to live with our parents again. After being away at school, getting used to coming and going as we wanted, socializing all we wanted, and being free to make our own (good or bad) decisions, no WAY were we going back to ol' Mom and Dad's rules.
Times are different now, I know. Starting salaries have not kept pace with the cost of living. Also, I think parenting has changed--and not for the better. My parents, and those of my friends, wanted us to be self-sufficient and independent. They didn't want to have to worry about us, and they wanted us to put our educations to use. Now? Ugh. Too many over-involved helicopter parents who coddle their kids to the point where their kids remain dependent on them through their 20s.
Well, if you're still living at home, living by your parents' rules, while your parents support you and have input into how you live your life through your 20s, and you've never really learned how to budget or operate without a safety net in the adult world, that's just going to make it a lot harder to develop an adult relationship.
Neither is starting arguments with multiple posters. If this is how you talk to people IRL, then that's a problem. And yes, we can tell you how you are and your posts are empirical proof of that.
I wouldn't call it starting an argument. My opinions tend to be drastically different, so that in and of itself causes 'issues.' And no YOU think with your self righteousness that you can judge a person by posts. If that is the case, tell everyone on here about themselves since you seem to be all knowing because you got it off of the CD forum.
And you're still going. Hell the post you quoted, I didn't even address you. I addressed Trimac, which shows you're going out of your way to be confrontational.
wth are you talking about?? I am 'still going' because that's what is being discussed like it has been for the past few posts. get over yourself you are not the CD post police. People quote others, that's what they do on here.
Doll: overstimulated is an understatement. Please find a constructive way to release your anger and whatever your hurt is. If you don't you it will literally shorten your life.
Yes I guess some things just get you fired up. I get that. Why did you cut off your friends? (you don't have to share if you don't want to). Did they wrong you/disappoint you? What about family?
So I guess you have no interest in a relationship? Ever?
I might be borderline AS too, although it means nothing to my life. I do want to find love, too, hopefully I won't get too hardened before my time comes.
Sorry, I'm not supposed to answer any of this until it's approved by Waka.
Doll: overstimulated is an understatement. Please find a constructive way to release your anger and whatever your hurt is. If you don't you it will literally shorten your life.
The way I see it, the only people who would get offended and go off the deep end by what I wrote, which mentioned no one in particular, are those who saw themselves in what I said. The truth hurts.
Funny how so many around try to pass of their opinions as truths. Yes Lilac you know us so well, you know everything about everything. You know what we all want and need in life. You'd think with all this great knowledge you have about life and the world you'd be out there solving the world's real problems. Hey we have a trillion dollar debt maybe you can solve it since you know so much about life and the world. You judge us by what we post on these forums and tell us we bring that to the real world. Well let's see if I have your personality pegged based on everything that you've written in this thread.
pretentious, arrogant, close minded and immature.
So Lilac, with all of your great knowledge about life, why waste it the "bitter and jaded". Take your own advice, go out and live since you have such a wonderful life.
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