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As far as "creativity" (positions, technique, etc) I'd say probably more partners...but for someone who is more connected and able to understand their partners' needs (and be concerned about those needs), probably someone who has had a LTR or two.
Like most things, a balance of the two is probably best.
I'd say it also depends on intelligence, curiosity, selflessness and responsiveness. My first time was with a guy who had a lot of experience - both one-night stands and long-term relationships. But he was dumber than a stump, interested mainly in getting himself off and utterly oblivious to the signals I gave him. Talk about "meh." We only slept together the one time.
The second guy was just as experienced, had a genius-level IQ, wanted me to have a good time and paid attention to my body language. He knew I'd done a lot of "research" about sex (read a lot of books, etc.), and kind of let me have my way with him when it was my turn. He was very bouncy for the next few days, talking about how he was only going to date "women who read" going forward. Meanwhile, I developed the "no selfish morons" rule - I'm never having sex with a guy who doesn't meet a basic level of intelligence and curiosity or display any interest in my pleasure.
The number of partners means nothing, I'm pretty sure. Someone with a lot of one-night stands under their belt would have no way of truly ascertaining their partners' levels of satisfaction. So unless it was paired with some long-term relationships, I'd probably be LESS inclined to be with such a person. By the same token, a person with one long-term relationship would probably be a little set in their ways. But personality matters the most.
The number of partners means nothing, I'm pretty sure. Someone with a lot of one-night stands under their belt would have no way of truly ascertaining their partners' levels of satisfaction. So unless it was paired with some long-term relationships, I'd probably be LESS inclined to be with such a person. By the same token, a person with one long-term relationship would probably be a little set in their ways. But personality matters the most.
I dont know if I agree with that at all. With variety of partners, you really learn a ton more about your own sexuality, about different preferences, about performence level, about fetishes, about how to improve different areas of your sex life, the benefits are endless. Provided, sex with a person you have actual feelings for, is substantialy better over time, for the most part - you can only gain a limited amount of experience with someone who may or may not have their preferences. If your SO isnt into oral sex, and its the only person youre sleeping with, chances are youre going to lack in that department. THere are so many other factors that come into play, but ultimately i believe it depends on whether youre looking for one partner or just a one night stand.
JrzDefector, you are absolutely and completely correct. This has been my experience, and it conforms to what other good lovers have told me and to what I've read both in popular books and scientific articles.
OP, I see what you're trying to get at, but I think you asked the wrong question.
No, it doesn't. What makes a man a good lover is the ability to learn to what his partner wants physically and emotionally from sex and to give that. Which means, you have to ask...., listen...., and....learn from each experience. The number of sexual encounters one has had has nothing to do with this because not all women want the same thing.
No, it doesn't. What makes a man a good lover is the ability to learn to what his partner wants physically and emotionally from sex and to give that. Which means, you have to ask...., listen...., and....learn from each experience. The number of sexual encounters one has had has nothing to do with this because not all women want the same thing.
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