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but who is to say that a bi man will necessarily choose another man over his GF/wife just because he is bi?
Isn't this a little presumptuous?
I think it is.
Because bisexual men like *****.Ain't it obvious.Also I have heard that men give better blow jobs then women, and can screw better then women.So it's all about sex, and the needs,and wants of The Bisexual Man. If a woman gets involved with a bisexual man she will have to give a 110% in order for him to be happy with her.It almost seems like she will put him first over herself.
Agreed. Should women divorce their straight husbands because said husbands almost certainly will sleep around with other women?
No surprises there, unfortunately. Bi men are some of the most sexually aggressive/forward that I have come across. (Foreplay isn't in their dictionary...)
As for the attitude of attraction to the person, it's one of many attitudes that seem to develop so that the bisexual can better "sell themselves" on the dating marketplace. The most popular one is the bisexual who "really prefers women" but just likes his side order of sausage. They are also usually as closeted as all hell and are generally the worst to deal with on a man-to-man basis. Bi men who could comfortably function (ie, be out in the open) in both hetero AND gay relationships are rare. Social forces heavily favour hetero relationships, so this should not be surprised. The "attracted to people" snobbery I perceive as a defensive reaction. While enough believe that they are more enlightened than your average person, it's more importantly a feel-good mechanism that strengthens them as they face a world that sees them as disgusting and really has no interest in gaining a deeper understanding of bisexuality. Then there is the "top only" perspective, also extant to downplay homosexual tendencies.
As for a brutal life experience, I am not sure what you had in mind, but under my own interpretation, I can agree. Bisexuality forums are full of husbands who after years of repression found themselves feeling "trapped" in marriages and terrified of coming out to their wives. Many are enjoying their secret sausage suppers. Many aren't. I have to imagine that feeling trapped in a marriage living a lie is a "brutal" life experience (women in this position seem to be rarer, or less visible at least). Then there are the "me's". My sexuality was confusing to say the least, especially in those formative years. My sex life went from "rare/seldom" when I was a repressed straight to non-existent as an open(ish) bisexual. Friendships became complicated, as I had to factor in the "will they accept me." Surprisingly, I've had luck in that department....more than I could dream of. But the paranoia from straight male friends is atrociously annoying at times. Nonetheless, I still feel uncomfortable in "sexual" atmospheres like nightclubs (hate them, but go on rare occasion for birthdays when decorum demands my presence). My own extraordinarily reserved/guarded nature (take your pick, was it the bullying or being the child of an alcoholic?) doesn't help either, as I come off as cold.
Then you have to factor in an unaccepting environment. Being told (or made to feel) that you're evil, mentally ill, undesirable, mis-guided, perverse, a sinner, a liar, greedy, etc because of your sexual preference will warp you slowly. Many come from a family/home environment that ranges from moderately ignorant to utterly repressive. My own mixes bits from all parts of that spectrum. It's warped...I am basically out in Australia in the state of Queensland with the reputation for being the "Alabama of Australia" for its...less than progressive outlook. When that plane lands in NY, I throw myself head first back into the closet because my family harbours the small-town Catholic provincialism of Long Island. At least I have 3/4 of the year on another continent to live "free." It would be a brutal experience to live like that constantly.
Side note: One great perk is bitching about men with my female friends.
Edit: Jrz Defector, silverbelle, and Angel, good posts.
All I got from your post that bisexual men really need to be with men only,so they can be fully happy. And you were proving my point along. Also that it's the woman's fault for everything just because she's a woman, and she deserves to be made a fool out of because she's not a man, and her husband have every right to go out, and sleep with men.
And again there's a huge difference when a man cheats on his wife with man over a woman.I can't even imagine the dirty feeling.
Well that's you.I am talking many other women that go through trauma finding out their man is gay/bisexual, and has been viewing gay porn.besides I would never question why my male partner was looking at straight porn,because I know he is STRAIGHT.Gay porn on the other hand makes me question his sexuality, and our relationship.
Thank you for reiterating my point. It's not that bisexual men are going to cheat on a woman, it's that some women are insecure about their sexual prowess and relationships in general. I wouldn't want to date a woman (or man) like that; so it would be good for me know that about a person up front.
Thank you for reiterating my point. It's not that bisexual men are going to cheat on a woman, it's that some women are insecure about their sexual prowess and relationships in general. I wouldn't want to date a woman (or man) like that; so it would be good for me know that about a person up front.
And you have every right to feel that way.good luck with finding the man of your dreams.
And you have every right to feel that way.good luck with finding the man of your dreams.
This statement applies to you as well as its your life to lead. So rather or not I think your reasoning is viewed as homophobic is irrelevant. Good luck!
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Question OP.
Would you feel any better if a guy cheated on you with a girl than with a guy? OP, if a guy gonna cheat and not protect himself it ain't gonna matter if it is with a guy or a girl. A good guy will only share himself sexually with you regardless if he is attracted to only women or men and women.
Thanks. And to you. I'm in a somewhat new relationship, but it's promising so far. ...and he thinks it's cute when I check out girls...lol
Good luck out there.
He probably thinks it's cute cause he know you ain't going nowhere, and women cannot compete with men for the affections of bisexual men.So in short he got it in the bag. I wish you guys the best.
Would you feel any better if a guy cheated on you with a girl than with a guy? OP, if a guy gonna cheat and not protect himself it ain't gonna matter if it is with a guy or a girl. A good guy will only share himself sexually with you regardless if he is attracted to only women or men and women.
If he cheated on me with a woman, the first few times I will probably forgive him. But he cheated on me with a man at all? **** THAT ****. I will not even waste time for him to apologize.The dude is gay like most bisexual men are, and he lied to me about it.
I would feel like so low,so pathetic,incompetent,not worthy,I would feel like a failure,stupid,ugly, a clown, a puppet, nothing more than a lap dog, useless, a show monkey.My ego as a woman would be deflated, and in my self esteem would be out the window. All the listed might be the things I would experience if I was in that type of situation where a man cheats on me with another man. Here's another way to look at it.
It's a huge spit in the face, and makes me think that it's true when people, Gay men, and bisexual men hate women.To me it's like they hate women so much they will lead her on making her think he's a straight man,promise her a family, and marriage and eternity of happiness, then one day he cheats on her with a man.He's basically spitting and punching her in the face at the same time. It's a mind game.
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They are also usually as closeted as all hell and are generally the worst to deal with on a man-to-man basis. Bi men who could comfortably function (ie, be out in the open) in both hetero AND gay relationships are rare. Social forces heavily favour hetero relationships, so this should not be surprised. The "attracted to people" snobbery I perceive as a defensive reaction. While enough believe that they are more enlightened than your average person, it's more importantly a feel-good mechanism that strengthens them as they face a world that sees them as disgusting and really has no interest in gaining a deeper understanding of bisexuality. Then there is the "top only" perspective, also extant to downplay homosexual tendencies. 
I wish you guys the best.
