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Old 11-05-2012, 08:23 PM
 
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I don't know. Some guys who really like someone won't take no for an answer.



Persistence. Whether you liked it or not, that's how a lot of guy get the girl they want. Looks stupid from an onlooker's standpoint, but to the guy, he sees someone he wants, and didn't want to take no for an answer, and he's thinking eventually she will take it as compliments and start to turn on to him. Happens all the time, and it might work for her. Then he gets his ego stroked.
If it is made abundantly clear in no uncertain terms, you have to respect the woman's wishes and leave her alone. To persist is in this situation is very annoying and he could have even been charged with harassment.

Are there cases where one person is uncertain and then they reconsider? Yes, but they don't occur over the course of a bus ride. Maybe two people go out for a bit, break up and then get back together. Things happen, but this was a time to just stop and move on. The guy made a fool of himself and is lucky the girl didn't take more drastic action.
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Old 11-05-2012, 08:26 PM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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Originally Posted by Prince_Frog View Post
I don't know. Some guys who really like someone won't take no for an answer.

Persistence. Whether you liked it or not, that's how a lot of guy get the girl they want. Looks stupid from an onlooker's standpoint, but to the guy, he sees someone he wants, and didn't want to take no for an answer, and he's thinking eventually she will take it as compliments and start to turn on to him. Happens all the time, and it might work for her. Then he gets his ego stroked.
I think he is going to need to wait for the next bus ride if it is serendipity.
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Old 11-05-2012, 08:29 PM
 
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I think he is going to need to wait for the next bus ride if it is serendipity.
never know. Next bus ride he might be getting some free feel-ups and some make-out time.
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Old 11-05-2012, 08:55 PM
 
Location: not where you are
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If it is made abundantly clear in no uncertain terms, you have to respect the woman's wishes and leave her alone. To persist is in this situation is very annoying and he could have even been charged with harassment.

Are there cases where one person is uncertain and then they reconsider? Yes, but they don't occur over the course of a bus ride. Maybe two people go out for a bit, break up and then get back together. Things happen, but this was a time to just stop and move on. The guy made a fool of himself and is lucky the girl didn't take more drastic action.
I don't get why they think this is OK. Simply do as you please without regard for anyone else's feelings as long as your reach your bottom line, is all that matters. So glad that degree of harassment, wouldn't be tolerated out here.

Guys, it's not even mildly amusing to keep pushing, when it's clear the person shows no interest. Anyone that thinks it's cool to behave in such a manner, gives a glimpse of their real disregard for the feelings of women, when they continue to not care to hear when a number of people keep expressing the discomfort it brings to women to have to deal with such nonsense. Does it work for some, sure, even sales people, predators and so on know that it's a numbers game, doesn't make every pursuit right.
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Old 11-05-2012, 08:57 PM
 
Location: SF CA, USA
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Crappy pickup attempts?

Let me look in my diary for you, I've got them all there in a nice orderly catalog.

"Dear Diary, attempt # 114563...."
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Old 11-05-2012, 09:03 PM
 
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I don't get why they think this is OK. Simply do as you please without regard for anyone else's feelings as long as your reach your bottom line, is all that matters. So glad that degree of harassment, wouldn't be tolerated out here.

Guys, it's not even mildly amusing to keep pushing, when it's clear the person shows no interest. Anyone that thinks it's cool to behave in such a manner, gives a glimpse of their real disregard for the feelings of women, when they continue to not care to hear when a number of people keep expressing the discomfort it brings to women to have to deal with such nonsense. Does it work for some, sure, even sales people, predators and so on know that it's a numbers game, doesn't make every pursuit right.
i know what you're saying, and I've never gone that far to obtain a girl/woman's attention before, but from seeing guys do this, and talking to a few guys who act like this with every woman they've wanted, they do not care whatsoever about your feelings, and there end result is finding a "trophy", and if you aren't that, you're just a piece to use. This comes from talking to people who do these kinds of things, and I'm not saying he's going to be someone like those I've spoken to, but he's definitely treading that line.

Use the "You're not getting anything from me unless you date me!" sentence. Or juts use pepper spray. Either way, most guys like that will leave you alone and move on to the next.
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Old 11-05-2012, 10:44 PM
 
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Persistence. Whether you liked it or not, that's how a lot of guy get the girl they want. Looks stupid from an onlooker's standpoint, but to the guy, he sees someone he wants, and didn't want to take no for an answer, and he's thinking eventually she will take it as compliments and start to turn on to him. Happens all the time, and it might work for her. Then he gets his ego stroked.

I don't know if you're stupid or just pretending to be extremely stupid


The odds of this approach working are about the same odds of somebody winning the lottery. Are you really serious with the stuff you're saying in this thread?


Who in their right mind would react well to that?
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Old 11-05-2012, 11:07 PM
 
Location: Las Vegas, NV
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Every pickup attempt I make is a crappy one.....*heavy sigh* oh well
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Old 11-05-2012, 11:08 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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I don't know if you're stupid or just pretending to be extremely stupid


The odds of this approach working are about the same odds of somebody winning the lottery. Are you really serious with the stuff you're saying in this thread?


Who in their right mind would react well to that?
People do win the lottery, right?
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Old 11-06-2012, 06:25 AM
 
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I don't know if you're stupid or just pretending to be extremely stupid


The odds of this approach working are about the same odds of somebody winning the lottery. Are you really serious with the stuff you're saying in this thread?


Who in their right mind would react well to that?
Are you angry and bitter? Because you're coming off like an angry brat.

You can say what you want, but there's a lot of women who eventually go for this and like/love it. Hate it all you want, or hate me all you want, I don't really care, but it happens a lot.
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