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Yes it's not wise to do so in general on the whole if they're just minding their own business or busy with something etc but at times there is a way round it and you don't necessarily have to randomly approach and can meet plenty just by doing things in your normal day to day life when an opportunity presents itself .
The best way in my opinion is by being engaging with funny one liners/humour as it really CAN make something out of nothing, for example say you go grocery shopping and on whilst in the isles, with your trolley and a lady accidentally bumps into you I'd joke with something like " well that's definitely one way of getting a blokes attention! " or say one that's in front of you and politely holds the door for you I'd say " Ohh so you've got the manners to match ( her looks ) " sort of thing.
I really CANT stress this enough just how many doors this opens as it usually brings a smile/giggle, which can initiate a conversation and judging by her reaction you progress from there
Best part is you don't have to be comedy genius either and you'll be surprised at who and how many you can attract by making a lady laugh
Oh, definitely. The harder they laugh, the harder they fall. There's a reason they call it the laughgasm.
Oh, definitely. The harder they laugh, the harder they fall. There's a reason they call it the laughgasm.
Hahahaha love that one! And it's spot on as women can have multiple laughgasms as well.... Faked or not!
I've always had the opinion mate that if you could make a lady laugh you're always in with half a chance and thankfully ever since I was in nursery ( kindergarten ) I've had the ability to make people laugh!!
Hahahaha love that one! And it's spot on as women can have multiple laughgasms as well.... Faked or not!
I've always had the opinion mate that if you could make a lady laugh you're always in with half a chance and thankfully ever since I was in nursery ( kindergarten ) I've had the ability to make people laugh!!
I especially love seeing a woman laugh. That is my weakness. And I don't mean the typical ha! ha! I mean when they just lose it almost like their having a seizure for a good moment and when it is all over, they need to catch their breath.
Yes it's not wise to do so in general on the whole if they're just minding their own business or busy with something etc but at times there is a way round it and you don't necessarily have to randomly approach and can meet plenty just by doing things in your normal day to day life when an opportunity presents itself .
The best way in my opinion is by being engaging with funny one liners/humour as it really CAN make something out of nothing, for example say you go grocery shopping and on whilst in the isles, with your trolley and a lady accidentally bumps into you I'd joke with something like " well that's definitely one way of getting a blokes attention! " or say one that's in front of you and politely holds the door for you I'd say " Ohh so you've got the manners to match ( her looks ) " sort of thing.
I really CANT stress this enough just how many doors this opens as it usually brings a smile/giggle, which can initiate a conversation and judging by her reaction you progress from there
Best part is you don't have to be comedy genius either and you'll be surprised at who and how many you can attract by making a lady laugh
Just because you can make a woman laugh doesn't mean she will find you attractive.
There are different ways of going about it but as a shy guy myself growing up, I found ways to still meet lots of girls. You do not have to approach every girl you see fearing rejection. Only approach the ones you notice are giving subtle signs and when you approach, ask feeler questions to gauge interest and weed out the attention seekers that were waiting for you to approach just to reject you.
That's exactly what I'm going to do when I start dating again. If she isn't looking at me or smiling at me she isn't interested. That's how I see it.
That's a genuine reason to have your self esteem hindered by the bullying but you've had your first GF so you are capable ( I'm sure you were doubting yourself beforehand thinking you wouldn't get on ) so you're in a better place than you think mate and can look forward instead of backwards
DO NOT look as it as a waste of time trying to approach a lady and assuming the worst as it's a terrible mindset especially at 19 and it's only going to be YOU that's gonna hold yourself back and stopping you from dating.
For some men it is a waste of time and they know it for an absolute fact. I knew it in my late teens and finally accepted it at 26. It's not a terrible mindset it's a logical one. We all know ourselves better than anyone else does so what makes you think this 19 year old doesn't know what is or isn't a waste of time for himself?
Not everyone can pass on their genes to the next generation. Humans were made that way on purpose. Probably best to accept it and devote your life to something else.
I especially love seeing a woman laugh. That is my weakness. And I don't mean the typical ha! ha! I mean when they just lose it almost like their having a seizure for a good moment and when it is all over, they need to catch their breath.
Yup
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Originally Posted by 49ersfan27
Just because you can make a woman laugh doesn't mean she will find you attractive.
Yes but Its a defining quality that MANY will find attractive. That post was more of a way to initiate something out of nothing basically and without the added worry of directly approaching a lady that poster has
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Originally Posted by jma501
For some men it is a waste of time and they know it for an absolute fact. I knew it in my late teens and finally accepted it at 26. It's not a terrible mindset it's a logical one. We all know ourselves better than anyone else does so what makes you think this 19 year old doesn't know what is or isn't a waste of time for himself?
Yes it is a terrible mindset if you actually want to date , the reason why it's different with that 19 year old is because it's clearly just his confidence more than anything which can be fixed plus he's said he's fine with talking to women and has rightly said he wants to work on himself before he pursues.
He's not thrown the towel in yet and has shown a willingness to date..... Thats half the battle and words of encouragement won't go a miss
Just my take on his situation mate
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