For Guys Here Who Struggle With Women Because of Anxiety/Low Confidence/Etc... (lover, family)
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Maybe if you didn't whine aboout it so much. Maybe if you quit writing all these "woe is me" threads on CD and got out more you'd find what your looking for.
But, see, then your response to this didn't make sense. It was a brush-off that didn't address this comment. You keep doing that, in all these threads. "Get out, and mix and mingle" someone says. "I get out a ton", you respond. What good is your getting out a ton doing you in relation to the subject of all your threads? None at all.
I didn't see any opportunities like that. Most of the women came there with their boyfriends or came in huge groups. I had to approach out of nowhere
Since you keep making excuses...everyone is a stranger and in order to make friends and form romantic relationships, you, wait for it...have to approach, often "out of nowhere".
You keep pre-judging women, deciding for them that they don't want to be approached, or already have boyfriends, when you have no way of knowing any of this.
From your numerous threads on the subject, and right from the subject line of this thread, what steps are you taking to deal with your "anxiety/low confidence/etc"? You need to deal with your own personal issues before you can have a healthy relationship.
Since you keep making excuses...everyone is a stranger and in order to make friends and form romantic relationships, you, wait for it...have to approach, often "out of nowhere".
I've made a good number of my friends through easy situations - school, meeting friends through work, friends through friends. It just naturally happened, I never had to force it
Unfortunately I've had zero such luck doing similar thing with women. Now I'm in a situation where I have to "force it" or else I'm going to continue to be "forever alone" (as the kids on the net say) and that's a very uncomfortable situation for me. I hate awkwardness and approaching a girl who is out with 10 of her friends is incredibly awkward in many ways
omg sidebar, so I'm watching reality tv and it's a date hookup show without the other person knowing...
So the guy springs it on her and she says, "Well you know that I love you and you are my best friend and I had a crush on you for a while, but I let those feelings go and I was waiting and I just think we are better off as friends"
This just about killed me, so guys whatever you do, man up and just go for it, because at the end of the day you only get one go around, one shot and I don't know about you, but I REFUSE to be that guy.
omg sidebar, so I'm watching reality tv and it's a date hookup show without the other person knowing...
So the guy springs it on her and she says, "Well you know that I love you and you are my best friend and I had a crush on you for a while, but I let those feelings go and I was waiting and I just think we are better off as friends"
This just about killed me, so guys whatever you do, man up and just go for it, because at the end of the day you only get one go around, one shot and I don't know about you, but I REFUSE to be that guy.
I've had better luck going out and volunteering, then say a concert or a bar. The concert and bar scenes are made to enjoy yourself with friends, and possibly family. When you volunteer, you're most likely doing things by yourself.
I want to volunteer again but I'm hitting walls here. I used to live in a tourist town, where volunteering was plentiful. I was able to drop my daughter off at a grandparents or her mom's house for the night or weekend and then volunteer the whole day. I met tones of people; DJs from my favorite radio station, a couple looking for some good slopes, and a very pretty girl; which I did get to talk to for most of the night.
I say, if you want to get a chance to meet people and/or talk to women, you'll have to go away from the norm. Do something you enjoy doing and you'll most likely meet people that will enjoy doing the same thing.
I've had better luck going out and volunteering, then say a concert or a bar. The concert and bar scenes are made to enjoy yourself with friends, and possibly family. When you volunteer, you're most likely doing things by yourself.
I want to volunteer again but I'm hitting walls here. I used to live in a tourist town, where volunteering was plentiful. I was able to drop my daughter off at a grandparents or her mom's house for the night or weekend and then volunteer the whole day. I met tones of people; DJs from my favorite radio station, a couple looking for some good slopes, and a very pretty girl; which I did get to talk to for most of the night.
I say, if you want to get a chance to meet people and/or talk to women, you'll have to go away from the norm. Do something you enjoy doing and you'll most likely meet people that will enjoy doing the same thing.
I started volunteering for an animal shelter here in SF about a week ago. I've been meaning to do it for weeks but I've been terribly sick, adding fur to that would not have been smart.
Anyway I haven't met anyone really available there yet but it's not been very long, so no biggie. If anything it lowers my blood pressure, helps with the depression and makes me happy, because I love animals.
Anyway I haven't met anyone really available there yet but it's not been very long, so no biggie. If anything it lowers my blood pressure, helps with the depression and makes me happy, because I love animals.
I started volunteering for an animal shelter here in SF about a week ago. I've been meaning to do it for weeks but I've been terribly sick, adding fur to that would not have been smart.
Anyway I haven't met anyone really available there yet but it's not been very long, so no biggie. If anything it lowers my blood pressure, helps with the depression and makes me happy, because I love animals.
I've located two animal shelters but haven't gone forward with them yet. Other then meeting people, it's good to have some "me time", too. Have you tried doing in-town events?
My last in-town event was a total blow-out. There was about 300 volunteers there (and over 2000 people) and my younger sister (15) came along. All she did was complain the whole 2 1/2 hours we (I) worked. At the end, I wanted to have at least one beer, it was Octoberfest after all. She gave me some nasty looks, rude, harsh comments and was c***-blocking the whole entire time. Never again.
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