For Guys Here Who Struggle With Women Because of Anxiety/Low Confidence/Etc... (boyfriends, how to)
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Guys like myself who are in good shape, who are ambitious and successful, who are very outgoing/social and who have never had a girlfriend at my age are practically non existent. I've never met another case like myself
A friend of mine has no real money and is dating a woman 6 years older who has her own house and earns more than he does
She's absolutely crazy about him
OP, if you want a girlfriend, you have to make it happen.
If you don't approach, you're far less likely to get a girlfriend. It's really that simple.
I texted her "Hey ___ when are you working this week" and she responded right away to that one
I think that's pretty much a nail in the coffin that's she's only in it for the money
Yes. She's at work, looking to make money, not be your friend. I'm glad you've come to this realization. Now to focus on being yourself when not around women who are at work (strippers, bartenders...)
Yes. She's at work, looking to make money, not be your friend. I'm glad you've come to this realization. Now to focus on being yourself when not around women who are at work (strippers, bartenders...)
The bartender thing isn't that bad. It's not like they're directly selling themselves. I've heard tons of people picking up bartenders, waitresses, female sales staff, etc...
I just have to talk to all women though and let it happen by itself (instead of forcing it)
I don't think I'm too fragile and vulnerable - I am not one of those guys where I need a woman to validate my existence. I am very happy with my life and how it's setup....I just want to add something to it, not make a girlfriend my entire existence
Excellent thread here BTW, lots of fascinating replies
the way u come off in ur threads, you act like u do, otherwise u wouldnt be making such a big deal about being 23 and not having a girlfriend and needing to go overseas to get one. This is something u might need to change.
the way u come off in ur threads, you act like u do, otherwise u wouldnt be making such a big deal about being 23 and not having a girlfriend and needing to go overseas to get one. This is something u might need to change.
I've been alone for 8 years now that I've wanted a girlfriend. At first, it's not bad but after a while it really starts to grind on your psyche
I've been alone for 8 years now that I've wanted a girlfriend. At first, it's not bad but after a while it really starts to grind on your psyche
The thing is, when you say you've been alone for 8 years, you sound like an old man. Young people don't talk like this, saying they've been alone since they were 15, which is still a child. Many would say you've not even finished developing into who you're going to be, that the brain is not fully finished forming until around age 25.
But the thing is, what you want, you have to go after. More importantly, you have to put yourself in situations where you're going to have opportunities to connect with other women, and that's not at a strip club, not should it be focusing on the bartender at the bar but rather other female patrons at the bar. I don't even recommend the bar scene for finding a relationship, but at least it's a start, it's where other women go. You also need to broaden your interests to more than just what you do with your male friends outside of work hours, because hanging out with your buddies and playing or watching a sport isn't putting you in a situation to meet women.
The thing is, when you say you've been alone for 8 years, you sound like an old man. Young people don't talk like this, saying they've been alone since they were 15, which is still a child. Many would say you've not even finished developing into who you're going to be, that the brain is not fully finished forming until around age 25.
Are you 23 (almost 24) years old and have never had a partner either? Then you don't know what it feels like
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But the thing is, what you want, you have to go after. More importantly, you have to put yourself in situations where you're going to have opportunities to connect with other women, and that's not at a strip club, not should it be focusing on the bartender at the bar but rather other female patrons at the bar. I don't even recommend the bar scene for finding a relationship, but at least it's a start, it's where other women go. You also need to broaden your interests to more than just what you do with your male friends outside of work hours, because hanging out with your buddies and playing or watching a sport isn't putting you in a situation to meet women.
As far as the whole bartender thing goes, I only do it at bars/clubs that are very low key where a lot of the staff just hang out and don't do much all day. 90% of bars are too busy to really even talk to the bartenders
Maybe if you didn't whine aboout it so much. Maybe if you quit writing all these "woe is me" threads on CD and got out more you'd find what your looking for.
If you're so good looking, the equivalent to your sister, what is the problem? Afraid of rejection? Low self-esteem? Don't have the confidence or social skills to strike a conversation? Maybe those are the things you need to work on.
Don't you have guy friends? Go to the mall, hang out, meet some girls. Get over your awkwardness.
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