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I was bullied very badly when I was younger which basically destroyed my self-esteem and social skills. I'm pretty withdrawn socially now. I can talk to women with no issues but I don't approach women. I see it as a waste of time because it's pretty much a guarantee that you'll face more rejection than not and also some women just don't want to be bothered. I didn't get my first girlfriend until a few months ago, but we aren't together anymore. I met her via online dating. I'm 19 years old.
The only reason I struggled with was because I was shy when I was younger.. Still am somewhat but my success with women is just average. Not bad, but average at best.
I was bullied very badly when I was younger which basically destroyed my self-esteem and social skills. I'm pretty withdrawn socially now. I can talk to women with no issues but I don't approach women. I see it as a waste of time because it's pretty much a guarantee that you'll face more rejection than not and also some women just don't want to be bothered. I didn't get my first girlfriend until a few months ago, but we aren't together anymore. I met her via online dating. I'm 19 years old.
I was bullied very badly when I was younger which basically destroyed my self-esteem and social skills. I'm pretty withdrawn socially now. I can talk to women with no issues but I don't approach women. I see it as a waste of time because it's pretty much a guarantee that you'll face more rejection than not and also some women just don't want to be bothered. I didn't get my first girlfriend until a few months ago, but we aren't together anymore. I met her via online dating. I'm 19 years old.
That's a genuine reason to have your self esteem hindered by the bullying but you've had your first GF so you are capable ( I'm sure you were doubting yourself beforehand thinking you wouldn't get on ) so you're in a better place than you think mate and can look forward instead of backwards
DO NOT look as it as a waste of time trying to approach a lady and assuming the worst as it's a terrible mindset especially at 19 and it's only going to be YOU that's gonna hold yourself back and stopping you from dating.
There are different ways of going about it but as a shy guy myself growing up, I found ways to still meet lots of girls. You do not have to approach every girl you see fearing rejection. Only approach the ones you notice are giving subtle signs and when you approach, ask feeler questions to gauge interest and weed out the attention seekers that were waiting for you to approach just to reject you.
DO NOT look as it as a waste of time trying to approach a lady and assuming the worst as it's a terrible mindset especially at 19 and it's only going to be YOU that's gonna hold yourself back and stopping you from dating.
But I hear a lot of women complain that they don't want to be bothered while they are out and about, and I can understand that because I wouldn't want to be constantly approached while minding my own business either. I also know that I'm not really an attractive guy so I probably wouldn't have much success. I started online dating about a year ago and even though it took a while, it did get me my first gf. Maybe I will start approaching women some day, but I'd have to fix some things about myself first.
I've seen guys like this, met a few. In fact, they were a few years older than you. Great looks, in shape, personable among their friends, but couldn't approach a woman to save their life. They smile at women, try to make eye contact. That's about all they can muster. They wait for the women to approach them. This is more common than you think.
Used to have a friend who I met through pickup soccer who was like this. Nice job, nice car, responsible and ambitious, overall really good guy, but he couldn't go up and even say hello or look them in the eye. He was criticized behind his back for being shy by mutual friends we had. He eventually moved across country and met a wonderful girl who he is now happily married to. He never had to approach, met her through work.
But I hear a lot of women complain that they don't want to be bothered while they are out and about, and I can understand that because I wouldn't want to be constantly approached while minding my own business either. I also know that I'm not really an attractive guy so I probably wouldn't have much success. I started online dating about a year ago and even though it took a while, it did get me my first gf. Maybe I will start approaching women some day, but I'd have to fix some things about myself first.
Yes it's not wise to do so in general on the whole if they're just minding their own business or busy with something etc but at times there is a way round it and you don't necessarily have to randomly approach and can meet plenty just by doing things in your normal day to day life when an opportunity presents itself .
The best way in my opinion is by being engaging with funny one liners/humour as it really CAN make something out of nothing, for example say you go grocery shopping and on whilst in the isles, with your trolley and a lady accidentally bumps into you I'd joke with something like " well that's definitely one way of getting a blokes attention! " or say one that's in front of you and politely holds the door for you I'd say " Ohh so you've got the manners to match ( her looks ) " sort of thing.
I really CANT stress this enough just how many doors this opens as it usually brings a smile/giggle, which can initiate a conversation and judging by her reaction you progress from there
Best part is you don't have to be comedy genius either and you'll be surprised at who and how many you can attract by making a lady laugh
I don't approach women right now because I'm busy trying to figure things out. I'm sure when I get my life squared away, I'll be a little more social.
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) so you're in a better place than you think mate and can look forward instead of backwards 
