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I'm not talking about how men introduce themselves, it has nothing to do with me.
If you really feel this way, then don't get your Mom anything for Mother's Day. Just tell her everything you've said here in this tread, "Mom, you shouldn't expect pats on the back for this".
How do you know that I get my mother anything for Mother's Day? My mother could be dead for all you know.
Don't speak to things that you know nothing about.
How do you know that I get my mother anything for Mother's Day? My mother could be dead for all you know.
Don't speak to things that you know nothing about.
If she WAS or IS a good parent, it should still be acknowledged. Good parents should always be. I just completely disagree with your point simple as that.
If she WAS or IS a good parent, it should still be acknowledged. Good parents should always be. I just completely disagree with your point simple as that.
They should be, but that doesn't mean it makes them better people, it just means they aren't evil (probably).
For me..I guess i live in a fairy tale mindset..blame disney for that...but I always wanted my own family..not someone else's..I wanted there to be a guy out there who had never had children with anyone or ever asked anyone else to marry them...I spent a good part of my 20s furthering myself and taking excellent care of myself..that if i waited for the right guy i want him to wait for me...that includes not having children but with me..I purposely skip over men with kids kids on the dating sites bc that immediately the idea squashes my dreams ive grown up having since a little girl..but that is just me...
I agree. I may not ever have kids but yes I prefer that over being a stepmother. I have seen the damage done to stepparents by stepchildren, the exspouse and even the spouse that makes me avoid.
Ew, don't pat yourself on the back for doing exactly what you should be doing. I hate that men get credit for sticking around and being in their kids' lives. That should be the default setting.
In all fairness, moms do the same thing.
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Originally Posted by TenorSax83
Look, if a Mother does everything she can to take care of her children and is a great mother, she should be told how wonderful she is! If a Father is always there for his children by providing protection, direction, and love then he should be told how wonderful he is! I get that you want to date a childless person like yourself, nothing wrong with that. But here you come across like you want to knock good parents, which is trifling.
I think the point is the premise of why good parents are praised...the same as an employer thanking an employee for doing their job... .Being there for your kids should be the default, but unfortunately it's not: That is what's trifling. Certainly I appreciate parents that are exemplary—going above and beyond—that kind of parenting should get additional credit from others; while all good-meaning parents should be appreciated by their kids and spouses.
i dislike children.....i know that to many in contemporary society that makes me worse than the Devil/Stalin/Hitler mixed together, but then we shouldn't be vilified for holding, oh i don't know, an opinion?
As a single man myself without ever being married or having children. I am currently dating but have decided to wait to until after marriage before children. We could go on and on about this forever and I'm no one to judge as I may be a single parent one day if a relationship fails. I hope it doesn't happen to me but none of us are immune to it A list of preferences, fears, experiences, joys, hurts and what not about dating a single parent.
We all have our reasons as to why we date who we date. However, we don't know all the reasons as to why these parent's are single with a child(s). Some may be for a good reason and some of the reason's were just bad. Her story, his story, ect...
Well, the main reason is because it's just so messed up in so many ways. There are a myriad of circumstances, so there is really no answer. But when there "ARE THIS MANY" single parents in their 20's/30's, we have to admit "SOMETHING ISN'T RIGHT". If we turned the time back 30, 40, 50 years ago there were not as many single parents as there are today.
Instead of bashing the gender as the cause, both partners really need to think about it before throwing the condom away or ditching the control pills. Study forums like this and realize the danger emotionally for all parties involved when the couple splits with one or more children. If this wasn't a problem, this question wouldn't even need be asked. Yes, there will always be unfortunate circumstances that cause a split with children involved but I think there are way too many mistakes in our current generation that is causing this epidemic.With many saying no to single parents, I hope it starts to make people really think, plan, and explore before having children.
As a single man myself without ever being married or having children. I am currently dating but have decided to wait to until after marriage before children. We could go on and on about this forever and I'm no one to judge as I may be a single parent one day if a relationship fails. I hope it doesn't happen to me but none of us are immune to it A list of preferences, fears, experiences, joys, hurts and what not about dating a single parent.
We all have our reasons as to why we date who we date. However, we don't know all the reasons as to why these parent's are single with a child(s). Some may be for a good reason and some of the reason's were just bad. Her story, his story, ect...
Well, the main reason is because it's just so messed up in so many ways. There are a myriad of circumstances, so there is really no answer. But when there "ARE THIS MANY" single parents in their 20's/30's, we have to admit "SOMETHING ISN'T RIGHT". If we turned the time back 30, 40, 50 years ago there were not as many single parents as there are today.
Instead of bashing the gender as the cause, both partners really need to think about it before throwing the condom away or ditching the control pills. Study forums like this and realize the danger emotionally for all parties involved when the couple splits with one or more children. If this wasn't a problem, this question wouldn't even need be asked. Yes, there will always be unfortunate circumstances that cause a split with children involved but I think there are way too many mistakes in our current generation that is causing this epidemic.With many saying no to single parents, I hope it starts to make people really think, plan, and explore before having children.
I think part of the reason we see this is instant gratification. People want it NOW, not to wait. It'a why we see couples rushing into sex and childbirth. They were lusting after the person and once that sizzled they realized there was nothing there but now they have kids. Then for whatever reason they believe they have the same market value that they did but they don't. Instead they have a reminder of the fact that they failed and expect the new partner to accept it. In some cases the divorce was valid, not judging that but in many cases (especially with those who have multiple kids by different people)it shows they lack in morals.
If we turned the time back 30, 40, 50 years ago there were not as many single parents as there are today.
True. But try to remember, back in those days, if a woman got pregnant out of wedlock, usually they married immediately (and many times it was forced). Women back then didn't have the choice and/or opportunities that they do today. So they had to stay with the man that got them pregnant. My grandparents were married for this reason. As was my two aunt's and uncle. Let's not compare today to yesteryear.
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