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Old 01-16-2013, 12:46 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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No, No, and it's not worth it; I would not want my mate to cheat on me.
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Old 01-16-2013, 12:47 PM
 
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But how do I do that though?
I don't know what makes me happy at this point.
I don't know if I can live without my boyfriend, and I don't know if I can live with him.
I don't know if we have a future, and I don't know if he went out with the girl just to please his mother, or his feeling about me truely changed.

All these questions, no answers. This is my situation.
You can live without your boyfriend.

Clearly his family is quite upsetting to you....why would you want to be subjected to that.
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Old 01-16-2013, 12:47 PM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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OP, do you have someone in your life that you can confide in and be there for you during this time. Maybe that would be helpful, someone in real life that will be supportive of you breaking up with this guy.

What do your friends think of a guy that treats you this way.
If I tell all my girlfriends about this, they will tell me, "I told you so" how can that be helpful?

If I tell all my guyfriends about this, they will tell me, "Dump him, I will go out with you."

You see?
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Old 01-16-2013, 12:47 PM
 
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so somebodynew,

You are suggesting that bad behaviors should just be rewarded.

He went on a date, and I dump him, he starts a happy life with somebody new without feeling guilty?!
So your alternative is to punish him by staying with him so he will never be happy?
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Old 01-16-2013, 12:48 PM
 
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so somebodynew,

You are suggesting that bad behaviors should just be rewarded.

He went on a date, and I dump him, he starts a happy life with somebody new without feeling guilty?!
What???
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Old 01-16-2013, 12:49 PM
 
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So your alternative is to punish him by staying with him so he will never be happy?
I guess the both of them being miserable is the best alternative?
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Old 01-16-2013, 12:53 PM
 
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I have to be honest. All the dogooders on this forum makes me kind of sick. We come to the forum to connect with real people with real problems. and certainly none of us are perfect, we do go through normal human emotions. I am no saint, but I am not evil okay?

I have never cheated on anybody, but I am thinking about it, why? because I am pissed!!!!!!

I am not going into the details but the ******* parents of the dude i am dating setting him up with a family friend knowing we are still together, my soon to be ex boyfriend went along with the date!!! His excuse is "I cann't afford making my mother upset because she loves me."

I am thinking about going out with my college friend. I always had a crush on him and I recently found out he liked me too!! He is currently available, and we bumped into each other in the mall. I haven't made any move because I feel so guilty.

I know two wrong doesn't make a right, I know the blah blah and one size fits all cliche type of advices people are going to dish out here, but I cannot help feeling resentful of my current situation. I am thinking If I am dating a dude whose parents encourage him cheating on me, why do I need to stay faithful?

I want to cheat to just get caught. I knnow I shouldn't be thinking this way, but I can't help it.
you want to cheat to get caught? that's so naughty...and then ur bf can then like punish u and stuff..i guess i understand the get caught part but if i cheated(which i don't) then i wouldn't want to get caught at all...so why do u want to get caught?
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Old 01-16-2013, 12:53 PM
 
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If I tell all my girlfriends about this, they will tell me, "I told you so" how can that be helpful?

If I tell all my guyfriends about this, they will tell me, "Dump him, I will go out with you."

You see?
Well I told you so is less than ideal response.

I guess it confirms though that they also think the situation you are in isn't working.
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Old 01-16-2013, 12:53 PM
 
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Thank you.

and the sad reality is that he claims he is very faithful. but he ended up going out on a date with HER!
He's a loser. He panders to his parents and dates someone else? What kind of idiot is this guy? Get rid of him. He has a kid, he has some illness, he has domineering parents and no backbone. He's just useless. And post after post won't change that.
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Old 01-16-2013, 12:54 PM
 
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you want to cheat to get caught? that's so naughty...and then ur bf can then like punish u and stuff..i guess i understand the get caught part but if i cheated(which i don't) then i wouldn't want to get caught at all...so why do u want to get caught?
Maybe OP thinks this will make the guy desire her more?
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