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Shouldn't you be more positive about these "idjits"?
Yeah but if this guy is saying that he's mad at God then obviously he's going through something deeper than that.
nobody can deny that. and nobody say that he should be abandoned, or tossed to the side.
But if he is depressed, he needs therapist more than a girlfriend. If he is negative, he needs to change his attitude, otherwise, life would be tougher.
Many of us do not need negativities in our lives, we are not codependent.
I actually find it offensive thay we are all expected to be perpetual optimists when the powers that be(the media, politicians, corporations) are always hitting us with negativity. Thus ends my rant. But it's up to the OP what she wants to deal with. Me, I like someone who lays their cards on the table.
nobody can deny that. and nobody say that he should be abandoned, or tossed to the side.
But if he is depressed, he needs therapist more than a girlfriend. If he is negative, he needs to change his attitude, otherwise, life would be tougher.
Many of us do not need negativities in our lives, we are not codependent.
I actually find it offensive thay we are all expected to be perpetual optimists when the powers that be(the media, politicians, corporations) are always hitting us with negativity. Thus ends my rant. But it's up to the OP what she wants to deal with. Me, I like someone who lays their cards on the table.
What does the media have to do with anything?
Why do they control how you feel?
Take responsibility of your own life.
I actually find it offensive thay we are all expected to be perpetual optimists when the powers that be(the media, politicians, corporations) are always hitting us with negativity. Thus ends my rant. But it's up to the OP what she wants to deal with. Me, I like someone who lays their cards on the table.
you are missing the point here. We know that life is tough. Nobody can deny that, but what is the point of complaining all day long?
This guy complains about everything. Even when neighbor's kid got a flu, he said he was unfortunate, the kid coughed on him.
At the very beginning, I was like, "aww, it is okay, you are not going to get sick because of that." He is just a grumpy man.
It is very different scenario when a man says, "Life kinda of sucks, I have no directions in life." We all do this every once in a while, but we don't complains about bad drivers, and coworkers all day everyday. It is lack of coping skills turn people off. You know what I am saying
you are missing the point here. We know that life is tough. Nobody can deny that, but what is the point of complaining all day long?
This guy complains about everything. Even when neighbor's kid got a flu, he said he was unfortunate, the kid coughed on him.
At the very beginning, I was like, "aww, it is okay, you are not going to get sick because of that." He is just a grumpy man.
It is very different scenario when a man says, "Life kinda of sucks, I have no directions in life." We all do this every once in a while, but we don't complains about bad drivers, and coworkers all day everyday. It is lack of coping skills turn people off. You know what I am saying
I guess it really comes down to what you want to deal with then.
If he's condescending and looks down on a group of people, acts entitled and ignorant, HECK no?!
I dated a guy who was a bit cynical, more like a social critic.
I rather date someone who's a realist than someone who fudges facts and polishes poo, and then laughs at life because he can see through the b.s.
If that means he's a negative then so be it. Reminds me of a guest speaker who was a doctor who wrote something about fake positivity. It's healthy to acknowledge the dysfunctions in society, but let's not pretend as though certain issues are fine and dandy when they are blatantly not. It's delusional to deny what's going on. First step towards taking some kind of stance for advoacy is awareness, and I like that in a person. Rather than passively going along societal norms without questioning its legitimacy, I prefer someone who's a leader who can think for himself.
I don't think the other choice is to be a blind Pollyanna.
But you can even have a good attitude about effecting change in the things you don't agree with/tarnishes on society.
Negativity is a hard trait to deal with. At the same time, the person could lean more on the cautious side. Does your boyfriend ever take any risk or does he stay in lulls? I'm a cautious person, so some things I say does come off as negativity. It just depends on who's ears hear it. Being a credit analyst, I'm naturally scrutinizing financial statements. That does pour over into my personal life.
I would say if the person is mad at God too, than it shows me that this person can't buckle down and drudge through a task. Life is not always on your side and you need to have the will power to pick yourself up by your bootstraps. Overly negative people are generally negative for a reason. They were either overlooked as children, have abandonment issues, or never felt quite good enough. I'd seek therapy if negativity was impacting my life to where many outside people noticed. It's just not all around healthy and no one wants to be around someone like that for long.
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