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you haven't met me then.. joking. But yes, it happens all the time with about every guy on the site. Very persistant. It is a turn off though. I like to be nice to everyone but sometimes can't happen with their attitudes.
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Originally Posted by rs4 fan
I've heard that some guys do this . Don't they realize that's a big turn-off? I'd never do that as I wouldn't want the girl to think she's special anyway. IMO, NO woman is worth begging for.
You never saw a rejection from a employer wish a applicant good luck in their employment search?
I don't feel like I need LUCK to find someone so if a woman says that to me i will become disrespectful
It's a figure of speech accepting by society at large as courtesy and being polite. People don't need luck to have a good marriage or to do well at a new job either,but we still wish them luck. You seem to have a chip on your shoulder about dating, no need to take things so personally.
About the employer, I've never have one wish me luck because if I didn't get the job I just didn't hear from them.
It's a figure of speech accepting by society at large as courtesy and being polite. People don't need luck to have a good marriage or to do well at a new job either,but we still wish them luck. You seem to have a chip on your shoulder about dating, no need to take things so personally.
About the employer, I've never have one wish me luck because if I didn't get the job I just didn't hear from them.
And that's the exact same way woman should be online. If they don't like the guy they should delete and block him.
I always sent a rejection message. Regardless of how many messages I got, you can just type "you sound like a great guy but I don't think we'd be a match. Best of luck to you", then copy and paste it 100 times, to me no big deal. I just think it is courtesy if someone obviously took time to read my profile and put thought into writing to me. I very rarely got anything bad back, in fact I got many guys who thanked me for responding even if to reject.
As far as too many messages, I only got bombarded when I was "new meat", meaning the first couple weeks after posting or updating my profile, after that it leveled off. This was the case for most women I knew who did OLDing.
For me I always gave a guy a chance as long as he didn't have kids. When he did have kids I would usually thank him for the message but tell him it was a deal breaker. Look wise while I did prefer certain looks I would met men without that look because you never know.
I think I rather just meet the man for coffee or something first, before giving him my number (and before wasting time with crazy messaging). I just do better meeting someone face-to-face. Also, if you meet him and find out there's no chemistry or whatever, you pay for your coffee, thank him for his time, and wish him luck. You don't waste your time or his. Since you just went ahead and met him face-to-face, you don't risk someone who is a bit of a whacko calling you all the time. It's rare, most men out there are decent guys IMO, but every tenth one seems to be a little crazy (in a scary way).
There was a thread here about men posing as women on online sights, are you sure the ones that don't every want to call and just do things online are really who they say they are?
I'm not crazy about exchanging numbers either because I figure most I'll never meet. I did give my number to the last guy I met (who turned out to be wonderful) but the only one. The guy I met before that I gave him my number after we met to get together again but he decided he felt no chemistry. I didn't get weird at all, it was one of those things.
And that's the exact same way woman should be online. If they don't like the guy they should delete and block him.
Well, why do you get to set the rules for everyone, when I just said in my post the vast majority of guys THANKED ME for responding. Everyone is different, why get mad because others see things differently than you do? To me it's rude to delete if they took time to write, and why would I need to block them at all in any case?
I used to tend towards thinking that dating sites were poor overall for men, but I've somewhat changed my mind of late. People like you, OP, seem to have no trouble out and about, whereas I do, so maybe I should sign up for a few months and see how it goes. After all, it can't hurt unless I happen to run into an axe murderer, and in the meantime I can continue approaching and asking women out in normal venues as well.
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. Don't they realize that's a big turn-off? I'd never do that as I wouldn't want the girl to think she's special anyway. IMO, NO woman is worth begging for.
