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Originally Posted by OngletNYC
Why don't you see a counselor in order to learn to have disagreements without arguing? Perhaps if you stop arguing, and start spending your free time bonding as a couple instead of partying separately with friends, you can save your marriage.
Even if the marriage don't make it, it is imperative they get on good terms, for the sake of parenting their kids.
The topic of "staying for the kids" causes a split public opinion. Some people say yes and some say no. At the end of the day, it's your choice but remember that you have to look yourself in the mirror everyday so make the one you can live with.
And what kind of quality would she find? She sounds very immature, not ready for marriage (insurance..really??) or to be a good mother. If she ends this marriage she should not be looking for another partner for quite some time. She should work on figuring out why she thought she could get married with such a poor foundation and wonder why it isn't working.
so it wouldnt be selfish to raise our son in a home where we argue about every little thing. Im not sexually, physically, mentally or emotionally attracted to him at all anymore. we rarely stay in the same room as eachother
I think what people are saying is to try and found out why you have these feelings (or lack thereof) towards him. Go to counseling and see if you can rekindle what you once had. At least then you can feel as if you tried to make it work.
With a 5 month baby, it isn't a matter of her picking up a new man at her local saloon... or at least it shouldn't be. That is a recipe for a revolving door of men in her son's life.
Furthermore what is her financial situation? All this you go girl you don't need a man stuff often makes mother and child end up in poverty. To say that doesn't matter is to say she should value her personal desires over the future well being of her son. Children do not typically do better when raised by a single mom, PC propaganda aside.
Im not immature at all. Just because someone telling me that my sons gonna have 2 or more new dads in his future and me defending myself??? I did not expect my relationship to get this distant. I had a child with someone that I have been with since i was 16, i didnt go out and just get pregnant by anyone, and honestly im happy i did have a child with him because he is a great father. Just because we dont make eachother happy anymore does not effect the love we give our son.
Im not immature at all. Just because someone telling me that my sons gonna have 2 or more new dads in his future and me defending myself??? I did not expect my relationship to get this distant. I had a child with someone that I have been with since i was 16, i didnt go out and just get pregnant by anyone, and honestly im happy i did have a child with him because he is a great father. Just because we dont make eachother happy anymore does not effect the love we give our son.
It is not your husbands job to make you happy, nor is it your job to make him happy. Happiness comes. From within. Until you learn to make yourself happy you will never be truly happy in a relationship.
And what kind of quality would she find? She sounds very immature, not ready for marriage (insurance..really??) or to be a good mother. If she ends this marriage she should not be looking for another partner for quite some time. She should work on figuring out why she thought she could get married with such a poor foundation and wonder why it isn't working.
So your telling me one must be married to be a good mother??? And i said yes when he proposed I would have like to wait at least a couple years to get pregnant or married but instead i got pregnant sooner & yes we married so we could be assured myself & son had the best healthcare during pregnancy!
With a 5 month baby, it isn't a matter of her picking up a new man at her local saloon... or at least it shouldn't be. That is a recipe for a revolving door of men in her son's life.
Geez, who said the OP was in a hurry to find a new man? People are jumping to conclusions here.
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