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With me, you get two phone calls if I really like you. You get one phone call if I wasn't really impressed by you. You don't return my call? I take your number out of my phone and you can consider that your hint was taken.
I refuse to chase after women. Rejection hurts too much for that.
Sorry.
My motto is "If I wouldn't do it (such as ignore a phone call from a member of the opposite sex) then its a negative message to me if you do it" and its damn near impossible not to realize someone called you on the phone.
How many chances do you or would you give?
I have to say that so far contacting a woman after the exchange is a catch 22. If I would to call or very least text a that very day, it would seem that Im coming off as desperate and needy, attributes that women dont like about men in general. I would at very most wait 2 days to text at least once, if that fails, I would try to call her just once . Following day I would drop one last text and call the chase off. I dont want to sound as a stalker, but One should check to see if the number is connected with a Facebook account, and if anything try to friend request. That person which in return they will accept a friendrequest. This is how I got in contact with one woman after failing text and phone calls initially, and we hanged out even though she is a single mom already in a committed relationship I guess my profile showed her what Im really all about.
Last edited by Bronxguyanese; 03-24-2013 at 10:31 PM..
A note to girls ,
Don't expect a man that does not know you, to read your mind .
That is a fantasy that is self distructive.
Leaving hints, is assuming he know what you are thinking.
Say what you are thinking out loud, if you are expecting him to act .
Communicate.
This is the number one problem in all relationships .
Do not make promises out of wishes . Do not make things that do not exist.
If he says "I'd like to go fishing" it doesn't mean any thing more than, I'd like to go fishing.
If he says, "would you like to go fishing? " he hasn't promised to, he just asked if you would like some day to go fishing .
Most Guys I know say what they mean, and are not saying it with some hidden agenda like women seem to .
Obviously not all men , but most honest men I know are this way.
If I call some one ,
a. I have caught them off guard , could be in the middle of something.
b. They had been waiting for my call, and already know what they want to say to me.
c. They were about to call me to share a concern they have.
d. let it go to voice mail .
I'm fine with that too because I ride a motorcycle and cannot hear nor talk on the phone .
I am not desperate for a relationship , I have loads of friends and always more comming .
I understand the deception of romance and the fantasy world it is.
Way too much drama.
A note to girls ,
Don't expect a man that does not know you, to read your mind .
That is a fantasy that is self distructive.
Leaving hints, is assuming he know what you are thinking.
Say what you are thinking out loud, if you are expecting him to act .
Communicate.
This is the number one problem in all relationships .
Do not make promises out of wishes . Do not make things that do not exist.
If he says "I'd like to go fishing" it doesn't mean any thing more than, I'd like to go fishing.
If he says, "would you like to go fishing? " he hasn't promised to, he just asked if you would like some day to go fishing .
Most Guys I know say what they mean, and are not saying it with some hidden agenda like women seem to .
Obviously not all men , but most honest men I know are this way.
If I call some one ,
a. I have caught them off guard , could be in the middle of something.
b. They had been waiting for my call, and already know what they want to say to me.
c. They were about to call me to share a concern they have.
d. let it go to voice mail .
I'm fine with that too because I ride a motorcycle and cannot hear nor talk on the phone .
I am not desperate for a relationship , I have loads of friends and always more comming .
I understand the deception of romance and the fantasy world it is.
Way too much drama.
While I agree with most of the points you make in your post...sweet galloping galoshes, can we use paragraphs please. Pwease :3.
Once a night for 2 nights, then done. Seriously, if shes interested, she'll make it easy and answer or call back the first time. If she doesn't or is flaky, move on. No man should have his time wasted like that.
Phone call wise, I will call or text that night just to say I had a good evening with them. If she seems to reciprocate that then I know I'm in good shape. If I don't feel that way then I will text or call the next day and get a feel for how she feels about me. If I get a short text back or no answer from the phone call, then I've done what I've needed to do. The ball is in her court and if I don't hear anything over the next day or two, then my work is done. On to the next one.
Don't forget, we are in the communication age, so the rules about waiting days to contact can really be thrown out the window. You can update your facebook status, send out a tweet, and text your best friend about dinner, all while being on the phone with your Grandma. If you like the person then throw the rules out the window. It seems rules exist for the person that you're iffy about in the first place.
The poster is from Denmark, different dating standards. But I agree with you, and would add that repeat efforts to get a response is seen by many women as stalker/creepy behavior these days. It's like if a guy can't take a hint with the non-response, it's suspect/odd behavior.
should you say something to a guy like this , and if so what? Or just ignore?
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