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I think there needs to be a system of signal flags. They could be small enough to be rolled up and carried in a purse.
Remember a few years back when there were those colored wrist bands that high school kids were wearing to indicate their level of "activity" that they were wiling to do? The girls wore them mostly.... ( I don't condone it, just using it as an example)
Maybe that's what is needed:
Red = Married, don't bother
Yellow = Going through a break up, approach at your own risk - caution
Blue = I'm cautiously optimistic about dating so I'm open to you approaching me
Green = Go for it 100%
And then of course there would be other colors to specify preferences.
And if they don't, they aren't interested. You get it.
You gotta be really careful with that. It isn't that black and white, there is a percentage of women out there that get more reserved and shy around guys they are attracted to. The trick is to be able to recognize that, which comes from either natural ability(some people are amazing at reading others state/emotions) or from experiencing it a bunch of times. But if you aren't looking for it you'll never see it, you'll assume she's not interested and move on, missing out on a woman who was really into you.
Why is always up to the man to approach a woman? And they say men are lazy..
Why has it become such a trauma for so many young guys to approach? Know what? No one enjoys it. The difference between you and other guys who do it regularly is that their self-esteem isn't tied to whether or not a stranger wants to date them. It's not a catastrophe if someone says no, because most will!
You want women to approach, you want them to be blatantly obvious that they're interested, well it doesn't work that way. Countless threads recently have talked about women do show interest. But some are not receptive to these little tidbits and instead want to complain that women shouldn't do things the way women do, and cry about how unfair is is. Well, how's that working for your dating life?
Remember a few years back when there were those colored wrist bands that high school kids were wearing to indicate their level of "activity" that they were wiling to do? The girls wore them mostly.... ( I don't condone it, just using it as an example)
Maybe that's what is needed:
Red = Married, don't bother
Yellow = Going through a break up, approach at your own risk - caution
Blue = I'm cautiously optimistic about dating so I'm open to you approaching me
Green = Go for it 100%
And then of course there would be other colors to specify preferences.
most women would lie and use the red flag whether they were married or not.
Why has it become such a trauma for so many young guys to approach? Know what? No one enjoys it. The difference between you and other guys who do it regularly is that their self-esteem isn't tied to whether or not a stranger wants to date them. It's not a catastrophe if someone says no, because most will!
You want women to approach, you want them to be blatantly obvious that they're interested, well it doesn't work that way. Countless threads recently have talked about women do show interest. But some are not receptive to these little tidbits and instead want to complain that women shouldn't do things the way women do, and cry about how unfair is is. Well, how's that working for your dating life?
Don't put words in my mouth. This ain't 1954, I am not obligated to approach any woman if I don't want to. Where do women get this sense of entitlement that men have to approach them? Ridiculous!
Last edited by 49ersfan27; 08-19-2014 at 05:28 PM..
You gotta be really careful with that. It isn't that black and white, there is a percentage of women out there that get more reserved and shy around guys they are attracted to. The trick is to be able to recognize that, which comes from either natural ability(some people are amazing at reading others state/emotions) or from experiencing it a bunch of times. But if you aren't looking for it you'll never see it, you'll assume she's not interested and move on, missing out on a woman who was really into you.
I don't have to be careful at all. I do things my way, and no amount of shaming or telling me I will die alone will change my mind. If a woman likes me, she'll let me know. If she ain't talking to me, she ain't interested. That's what I believe.
Last edited by 49ersfan27; 08-19-2014 at 05:25 PM..
Remember a few years back when there were those colored wrist bands that high school kids were wearing to indicate their level of "activity" that they were wiling to do? The girls wore them mostly.... ( I don't condone it, just using it as an example)
Maybe that's what is needed:
Red = Married, don't bother
Yellow = Going through a break up, approach at your own risk - caution
Blue = I'm cautiously optimistic about dating so I'm open to you approaching me
Green = Go for it 100%
And then of course there would be other colors to specify preferences.
You're not the first one on this forum to suggest this.
Remember a few years back when there were those colored wrist bands that high school kids were wearing to indicate their level of "activity" that they were wiling to do? The girls wore them mostly.... ( I don't condone it, just using it as an example)
Maybe that's what is needed:
Red = Married, don't bother
Yellow = Going through a break up, approach at your own risk - caution
Blue = I'm cautiously optimistic about dating so I'm open to you approaching me
Green = Go for it 100%
And then of course there would be other colors to specify preferences.
They actually have parties with those colors(minus blue). Red is taken, green is single, and yellow is up in the air.
Don't put words in my mouth. This ain't 1954, I am not obligated to approach any woman if I don't want to. Where do women get this sense of entitlement that men have to approach them? Ridiculous!
Other men who are successful at dating and approach despite their nervousness are not doing so because women are entitled.
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