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Do you ever feel like you come in second to your SOs/Spouses Computer, laptop, Ipad, cell phone, or video game? Actually I'm sure you can apply coming in second to anything examples: work, friends, sports, fitness, car, children. How have you handled these feelings and what have you done to change your feelings or SO/ Spouses behavior? How much quality time do you think is necessary to spend together? COMPUTER LOVE
MANY years ago, well before we had kids, I told my husband. Me or online gaming. Choose. He knew I meant it. He chose me. That said, he was nutty addicted. He had lost all sense of time and responsibility.
as long as its a healthy hobby that is engaging you in the right way go for it in my books. its when you start ignoring the world to live in your own that the problems start to settle in
i dont put a set amount of time needed as a stipulation to spend together, i do put quality as one.
quality = making the best of the time you do spend together
MANY years ago, well before we had kids, I told my husband. Me or online gaming. Choose. He knew I meant it. He chose me. That said, he was nutty addicted. He had lost all sense of time and responsibility.
So did he just go cold turkey and give it up all together or did he just cut back? How long did he choose the online gaming before you decided to confront him?
as long as its a healthy hobby that is engaging you in the right way go for it in my books. its when you start ignoring the world to live in your own that the problems start to settle in
i dont put a set amount of time needed as a stipulation to spend together, i do put quality as one.
Okay so say if your SO and you work the regular 40hr week and then there's dinner to be made and the house to tidy do you think an hour is enough if say you have 4hrs of time before you've got to get ready for the next day or what about .5hr is that enough time?
I like that my husband and I share similar hobbies, such as online gaming. That way, no one has to give anyone ultimatums. I knew he was a gamer long before we were together, and vice-verse.
Granted, it doesn't interfere with our jobs, or housework, going out, etc - but others on the outside, looking in, would probably assume we were both 'addicted' or wonder 'what's wrong with us' if they happened to see us both with our headsets on, talking to teammates online, furiously clicking our mice and hitting our keyboards while trying to kill other people and/or creatures for hours at a time
Okay so say if your SO and you work the regular 40hr week and then there's dinner to be made and the house to tidy do you think an hour is enough if say you have 4hrs of time before you've got to get ready for the next day or what about .5hr is that enough time?
we don't evaluate on time spent, we evaluate on how we spend the time.
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I had to speak very directly and loudly to my wife the other day to stop texting her friends while we were out together. It's not often she gets lost in the texting vortex, but it certainly is annoying.
Okay so say if your SO and you work the regular 40hr week and then there's dinner to be made and the house to tidy do you think an hour is enough if say you have 4hrs of time before you've got to get ready for the next day or what about .5hr is that enough time?
Sometimes you need to reevaluate how you look at things.... if time is an issue, you can make daily chores the quality time together, cooking, cleaning, straightening up. Before we were married, and our schedules were out of whack and busy, just sleeping together was quality time. And it genuinely was for both of us.
Depends what you mean by quality time I guess.
When DH is stressed, online video games is what he needs. I just grab a book and we cuddle doing our own thing.
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I was 2nd because of an exes work, but she took on 2 jobs, so I knew it was for a good reason and I was OK with it. It just sucked that I only saw her once a week most of the time.
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