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WPD,
Your insecurity oozes through the screen every time you post. You need to become more comfortable in your own skin. Most normal adults that you will meet have no reason to rank you according to your assets or income potential. When people feel inadequate in any way, they tend to convince themselves that this inadequacy is the sole reason for their troubles. Reading this forum, you can almost categorize the posts by type; weight issues, height issues, sexual experience issues, money issues, education issues, race issues, etc., with each type of insecurity breeding its own brand of insecurity related dating handicap.
When I was in my early 20s I had a bit of financial insecurity issues myself. I went to a prestigious college that is known to attract wealthy kids. As a recent graduate, I was living in a small 2-bedroom apt. with a roommate, driving a motorcycle for transportation, and pretty much living paycheck to paycheck, while many of my college friends had 7 figure trust funds and were making loads of cash flying around the world inking real estate deals and such. When I met women, I thought that I was clever by subtly insinuating that my current situation was temporary and that I would be ballin' in just a few years once I finished my graduate degree. The insecurity showed through and I had very limited success meeting new women. I quickly realized that being limited by insecurity is no way to live. Instead of introducing myself as a doctoral candidate, my answer to the question "What do you do for a living?", or some variant thereof ,was "I cut grass" or "I am a dogcatcher" as landscaping was a part time job and I volunteered at an animal shelter but they paid me occasionally for some odd jobs. Women, both professionals and students, did not seem to care one bit about my lack of financial success.
If you let one area of inadequacy define you it will. You are not being clever by weeding out the gold diggers. Not having a ton of money means that problem is already solved for you.
What insecurity? I told her that i was moving into a APT and never became defensive. Also if you notice on page 8 that i said after what I been through the past 4 years I no longer feel the need to lie to women just because she has a vagina. Times are tough for everyone and no man should feel he needs to lie to please some stupid female on a dating sites who feels she needs to assess a man's living and financial situation.
Even if I was moving into a house that doesn't mean she was going to be inside of it which again made the question stupid.
It made your comment that you were moving pretty stupid too, if you had no desire to talk about your new living situation.
Why would you even mention it if you didn't want to be part of the conversation???
If someone mentioned to me that they were moving I'd probably ask "where to?" and depending on how well I know them, I'd ask why as well. It's called conversation...it doesn't mean she has an agenda when she makes small talk.
If you're having so much financial trouble, why are you even dating right now? Going on dates costs money even if you are going dutch.
Who the hell said I was having financial trouble?? I said I was having financial trouble last year which forced me to downgrade my living situation so now I can save more money and go out due to my rent being lower.
It made your comment that you were moving pretty stupid too, if you had no desire to talk about your new living situation.
Why would you even mention it if you didn't want to be part of the conversation???
If someone mentioned to me that they were moving I'd probably ask "where to?" and depending on how well I know them, I'd ask why as well. It's called conversation...it doesn't mean she has an agenda when she makes small talk.
Because we currently live in the same neighborhood and told her I will be in this section for another 2 weeks. And I thought the next question would be "what area are you moving to? Not......"Are you moving into a house?
So being comfortable with my new living situation since my account is going to soar is insecure?
No....We're referring to the insecurity that is exploding out of every single thing you post on this forum, thread after thread after thread. The insecurity that causes you to think that every time a woman asks you a simple basic small-talk get-to-know-you question, she's really assessing your finances and looking for a reason to dump you. That insecurity.
Because we currently live in the same neighborhood and told her I will be in this section for another 2 weeks. And I thought the next question would be "what area are you moving to? Not......"Are you moving into a house?
Well if you live in the same neighborhood, she is probably wondering why you are leaving. This is not rocket science. Goodness.
You nitpick everything a potential date says...it's no wonder you have a hard time with women.
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