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Well tell me why she didn't respond back when I said APT? lol
This does not necessarily mean she is materialistic…
I think in general when we start speaking to other people we tend to ask questions to get to know them better?
I THINK that there are many of us that are already conscience of what we are looking for which is ‘Stability”
This is different from materialistic…For I.E. I have my own home, I make my own money, I can take care of my son and myself…
But I am also 39...Age has a lot to do with it…
I do not care to be in a relationship with a man who is not stable and down the road he will expect me to carry him financially as well…
This has more to do with the way I was raised more than anything and the morals and ethics that were instilled in me…
I do not care if a man resides in a condo or apartment so long as he has his own space, this is the way it should be ideally…
So yes, I would ask if you live on your own …Men have also been known to ask this question FYI since they have expectations of their own…You know, them expecting a woman they choose with to have something going on for herself ….It is the same thing, so why would this shock you?
Just because she chose to not to respond to you after you told her you were moving into an Apt does not mean she is materialistic or may feel she has a golden vagina her expectations are different and this is neither here nor there…
You were obviously not what she was looking for and should move on instead of making assumptions…
If a man asks you over to his studio apartment, you're essentially hanging out in his bedroom, which can be awkward if you're not ready to become intimate.
It would also not inspire confidence in me that a man was financially stable enough to support himself--let alone that he could potentially contribute substantially to the household income should we wish to get married and have children in a few years. This doesn't make a woman a gold digger, it makes her practical.
If a man asks you over to his studio apartment, you're essentially hanging out in his bedroom, which can be awkward if you're not ready to become intimatel.
Good point. I remember when I was a kid, my mom mentioned how glad she was when her company's travel dept booked her into a hotel suite or an extended stay hotel (with a bedroom that was separate from the living/office area, that could be closed off). This was so, if she needed to conduct business with any male colleagues, the environment was kept more professional... And without a bed sitting inches away.
Having just moved into my first house, I would ask that question if I knew the guy had a good income that would allow him to buy a house. Being a new homeowner is terrifying and awesome at the same time - I'd love to compare notes with someone else in the same situation on how they handle certain things that come up and whatnot. It's a conversation starter. RELAX.
I think in general when we start speaking to other people we tend to ask questions to get to know them better?
Yes, this is what most people do when dating, but not WPD. He says people on dates should only talk about things like sports and television, not each other. He interprets any personal question, even the most basic and standard ones, as an interrogation or attack.
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I do not care to be in a relationship with a man who is not stable and down the road he will expect me to carry him financially as well…
This is what I've found with many women. In the modern era most are not looking for a man to support them, because they can support themselves. They're just looking to make sure they don't have to support him.
The few women who are looking for a man to support them are seeking out the rich guys, anyway, or better yet going to the "seeking arrangement" Sugar Daddy / Sugar Baby website. Regular guys like me and WPD don't really need to worry about them, because they're not interested in us, unless we're pretending to be rich.
Love how you inferred it meant she was doing a wallet biopsy.
Someone tells me they are moving (anyone), I'd say, "Oh, cool...where to? You gettin' a house or what?" Just to be polite and appear interested.
Apparently he thinks the proper response to someone telling you they're moving is, "Okay, that's nice," with zero follow up questions and an awkward silence before you resume talking about TV shows and sports teams.
How is she supposed to know you haven't saved money? I'm assuming on your first date you didn't say, "Hi, nice to meet you, I'm completely broke." In that case, I agree that it might have been silly of her to ask if you were upgrading your living situation.
Many people who live in studio apartments do so because they're saving for a down payment on a house. It's not a ridiculous question. If the answer is no, just tell her no. Not everything is a personal attack against you.
With mortgage rates at all time lows, it's not silly to think a middle-aged man is moving into a house. The money you paid your new landlord to move into another apartment, could have gone toward a down payment on a condo, or small home. Just think, if you stop purchasing those 100.00 AM EX gift cards for the ladies you find on CraigsList, a house might be within your grasp.
We met on OKC and I told her I was about to move in a few weeks and she then asked me............................................."AR E YOU MOVING INTO A HOUSE?
Now not only do women want you to live alone, but you have to be in a big a$$ HOUSE. LOL
The last time I checked a studio apt was a lot better than
My Mom's house
Homeless Shelter
A roomate
Dating continues to be crazy in philly.
PhillyDude, you seem stressed by online dating and the accompanying stupidity. Maybe you should take a break and try real-life interactions.
Conversation is about responding to what the other person said.
OP, if you didn't want to tell her that you are moving into an apartment, you should not have mentioned that you are moving. When you say you are moving, that indicates that you wish to talk about it. The most common response you are going to get to your statement that you are moving is "Oh, where to?"
That does not mean that the person you are speaking with has even the slightest interest in where you are moving to. They are just giving the correct social response to your indicating that you wish to speak about your move.
She might have smiled and said "are you moving to a house?:" But what she was thinking was "Gee, I hope this guy doesn't try to get me to help him pack and carry boxes."
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