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Location: Democratic Peoples Republic of Redneckistan
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Originally Posted by monemi
No one's backyard could take a couple of hundred people. So the venue was a large part of the cost.
Next time you know someone getting ready to blow that kind of change for a venue,ill rent the massive civic center in the next town over for just over a grand for the day and only charge them 20g for the use of it...you have to admit that spending that kind of money is really ignorant as far as the tangible things to make their lives easier after the wedding are concerned? I mean really,give me $60000.00 disposable and I would triple it in a year of just fiddle farting around and trading...that's my point...just a waste to keep up with the Jones and a "hey look at me" thing all the way...jmho
My wedding cost very little. The pastor who married us was a close family friend. Not only did he let us use the church for free, we had the reception at his house. His home and yard were both very large. There was enough room in his backyard for tables, a dance floor, a DJ booth and more. We all had a great time. That was 10 years ago and it seems like yesterday.
If your family has the money, then go big if you want. However, for regular couples I would advise spending that money on a home or using it for something more prudent. Years later it is not the "blig" that you remember most from your wedding anyway.
First, there is the engagement ring, $5-6k (after tax) is a minimum expectation it seems these days, then wedding bands (another $1k) then the wedding itself... looking around $25-30k seems to be the average, then the honeymoon, another $5k or so... when all is said and done we're talking close to $50k!!
And this seems to be very average, not high end at all.
My question, how do people afford it? Especially considering that marriage often means starting a new family which leads to even more very high expenses - buying a home, family cars, kids etc.
How many people can blow this kind of money and then continue into making expensive choices like buying homes and having kids?
Idk.. seems like a lot of people marry for the 'image.'
They want to marry the perfect groom who will fit into the perfect suit for the perfect carriage with a little ring bearer who bears the perfect big round diamond ring, and then they wed off into a perfect Caribbean bliss.
Seriously, life's $hitty. A simple wedding and a simple ring is enough to profess one's loyalty and devotion towards one another. That's where the real work is. Why invest so much money on how the damn tablecloth and table-wearscape (whatever the hell it's called) looks like? Most of it's probably going to the trash anyway (like anyone recycles)./Vent @ ridiculousness of wedding business. *barf*
No one's backyard could take a couple of hundred people. So the venue was a large part of the cost.
I cant imagine having that many people. Maybe in the future people will just video their wedding and put it on u-tube. LOL. Or if they want to be more personal send everyone their own copy. Almost as good as being there.
Next time you know someone getting ready to blow that kind of change for a venue,ill rent the massive civic center in the next town over for just over a grand for the day and only charge them 20g for the use of it...you have to admit that spending that kind of money is really ignorant as far as the tangible things to make their lives easier after the wedding are concerned? I mean really,give me $60000.00 disposable and I would triple it in a year of just fiddle farting around and trading...that's my point...just a waste to keep up with the Jones and a "hey look at me" thing all the way...jmho
She's some kind of corporate accountant. She had that kind of money to blow on a wedding at 33 years old. And tie up my life as I tried to help her plan the damn thing. I don't know what she earns, but it's probably over $100k and she doesn't drive and doesn't fly much. She doesn't usually spend extravagantly aside from her tiny dog. She has the weirdest thing about buying expensive male pets, spoiling them and giving them Italian names. Pasquale. Guiseppe. Napoleon.
Anyway, she's cool in some ways and a little crazy in others. Like the wedding thing. She was always going to have a big wedding.
I'll just answer the part about eloping. For many it is very important to have family present for the occasion. I really never thought about eloping, but I can say there would have been a lot of issues on both sides if we had.
You can still do things modestly though, have family present, and not elope.
True. I guess I didn't really mean "elope" in the strict sense of not telling anyone until after. I was thinking more along the lines of just having something very low-key with very few people there.
Location: Democratic Peoples Republic of Redneckistan
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Originally Posted by kat949
Idk.. seems like a lot of people marry for the 'image.'
They want to marry the perfect groom who will fit into the perfect suit for the perfect carriage with a little ring bearer who bears the perfect big round diamond ring, and then they wed off into a perfect Caribbean bliss.
Seriously, life's $hitty. A simple wedding and a simple ring is enough to profess one's loyalty and devotion towards one another. That's where the real work is. Why invest so much money on how the damn tablecloth and table-wearscape (whatever the hell it's called) looks like? Most of it's probably going to the trash anyway (like anyone recycles)./Vent @ ridiculousness of wedding business. *barf*
You and I are pretty much in one accord on this wedding "bidness"
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Originally Posted by boxus
My wedding was under $500, including the rings.
I hear ya..my wedding was cheap,but my divorce raped me...and not in a good way either
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