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In this thread: Irony. Women complaining about men complaining. If WestPhilly makes a thread complaining about women, women will go on that thread and blast him for complaining. The cycle never ends. Newsflash: Both genders complain. Besides, there would be no reason to have a relationships forum if people didn't complain about something.
Like I mentioned before, I don't care if people complain, but when it's the same complaints over and over without an apparent desire to listen to anyone else it gets tiresome. Of course women do this too, but men on this forum seem to do it more often.
I like to tell people there's a blog feature of this site not to be annoying, but to remind them there's a better place for just venting. There's also a chat thread for something that's regularly occurring.
Most regular posters want to help and many will say "Aww, it's ok," but after a while people will get tired of saying this.
In all honesty, how could you know the amount of effort they've put forth into seeking a meaningful relationship by random complaint posts?
That's what I wonder. People come on here all the time complaining about how much effort they've put into a relationship or finding one, but we really don't know.
Women are doing the same thing. They complain about a failing relationship and how they've done all they can to salvage it but he doesn't pay attention. Meanwhile, she has thousands posts and you wonder where she finds the time to "salvage her relationship" when she's on forums and facebook for most of her free time. Usually they're just looking for validation from a cheerleading squad to tell her she "deserves better".
On that note, I can't tell you how many times I've seen posters tell a female poster "she deserves better" when she has just signed up for an account on CD and her first post is a rant about her boyfriend or husband. How does anyone know she deserves better? We got a one sided story from someone we know absolutely nothing about.
Like I mentioned before, I don't care if people complain, but when it's the same complaints over and over without an apparent desire to listen to anyone else it gets tiresome. Of course women do this too, but men on this forum seem to do it more often.
I like to tell people there's a blog feature of this site not to be annoying, but to remind them there's a better place for just venting. There's also a chat thread for something that's regularly occurring.
Most regular posters want to help and many will say "Aww, it's ok," but after a while people will get tired of saying this.
People vent on here all the time, I dont see anything wrong with it. Understanding the therapeautical value of writing stuff down when something bugs you, i think makes it ok to read and ignore once in awhile. Both men and women complain, and they do it because many times its much easier to place the blame on something external rather than take a good hard look in the mirror. THats where youll find most blame should be placed and its also where any changes will come from.
That's what I wonder. People come on here all the time complaining about how much effort they've put into a relationship or finding one, but we really don't know.
Women are doing the same thing. They complain about a failing relationship and how they've done all they can to salvage it but he doesn't pay attention. Meanwhile, she has thousands posts and you wonder where she finds the time to "salvage her relationship" when she's on forums and facebook for most of her free time. Usually they're just looking for validation from a cheerleading squad to tell her she "deserves better".
On that note, I can't tell you how many times I've seen posters tell a female poster "she deserves better" when she has just signed up for an account on CD and her first post is a rant about her boyfriend or husband. How does anyone know she deserves better? We got a one sided story from someone we know absolutely nothing about.
I've seen this a lot on other forums as well: If it's a woman, it's "leave you deserve better" if it's a man, it's "you should try harder to make her happy" lol
Well said, OP, though I would note that it's a pattern with the people here to complain about the opposite sex rather than address their own problems. It's not just the men.
Guys lacking strong father figures tend to be losers with the ladies... It's a sad phenomena going on in America today. Sons being raised by mothers. Sons need fathers, daughters need both parents.
"Guys lacking strong father figures tend to be losers"
Not all, but the prison population mostly being filled with Fatherless prisoners would be a pretty good indication of the importance of having a involved dad in their life.
"Sons need fathers, daughters need both parents"
Ideally, for 95% of the population Sons and Daughters need both a good mom and dad, that way they see how men and women our supposed to interact. If not they tend to learn from their friends , movies or television.
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