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Overwhelmingly, the young men who post on CD about their lack of success with women, seem to put far more effort into complaining about the women than they do in wooing them.
Poster after poster wants a girlfriend back and pines after her, but they rarely (if ever) seem to give her much thought or attention when she's in front of them...only when she's gone.
Guys, if you put as much emotion into the relationship as you do into its aftermath, you probably wouldn't be split up in the first place.
Also, if you put as much effort into meeting someone as you do into complaining about those you want to meet and don't, you would probably be way more popular and busy on a Saturday night.
Overwhelmingly, the young men who post on CD about their lack of success with women, seem to put far more effort into complaining about the women than they do in wooing them.
Poster after poster wants a girlfriend back and pines after her, but they rarely (if ever) seem to give her much thought or attention when she's in front of them...only when she's gone.
Guys, if you put as much emotion into the relationship as you do into its aftermath, you probably wouldn't be split up in the first place.
Also, if you put as much effort into meeting someone as you do into complaining about those you want to meet and don't, you would probably be way more popular and busy on a Saturday night.
You have to figure the source. People don't come online to tell you how well they are doing, they get on line to tell you their sob story. Applies to men and women.
Case in point, there was a nice thread here about a 2 weeks ago asking people to say what was good about their long lasting marriage, or something along those lines. It petered out in 4 pages.
On the other hand a post about a womens husband cheating on her with her sister can last for years.
You have to figure the source. People don't come online to tell you how well they are doing, they get on line to tell you their sob story. Applies to men and women.
Case in point, there was a nice thread here about a 2 weeks ago asking people to say what was good about their long lasting marriage, or something along those lines. It petered out in 4 pages.
On the other hand a post about a womens husband cheating on her with her sister can last for years.
It's not even about being positive, though. We read a lot of complaints without any real desire to get help. I don't care if someone is negative about his dating life as long as he's willing to listen to suggestions.
Overwhelmingly, the young men who post on CD about their lack of success with women, seem to put far more effort into complaining about the women than they do in wooing them.
Poster after poster wants a girlfriend back and pines after her, but they rarely (if ever) seem to give her much thought or attention when she's in front of them...only when she's gone.
Guys, if you put as much emotion into the relationship as you do into its aftermath, you probably wouldn't be split up in the first place.
Also, if you put as much effort into meeting someone as you do into complaining about those you want to meet and don't, you would probably be way more popular and busy on a Saturday night.
Guys, if you put as much emotion into the relationship as you do into its aftermath, you probably wouldn't be split up in the first place.
Or if you would just speak up when you find something that makes you unhappy, then it's possible that issues could be resolved. If Person A started a discussion, Person B would be able to explain why something is done the way it is. Or Person B could get a sense of what Person A is saying, and be willing to adjust.
Imagine that!
Oh, and let's not forget that relationships are not constantly exciting and blissful. Like everything else in life there are highs and lows. In relationships, it's called The 7-Year Itch. BUT, most people don't hang around to wait for the next level of caring and committment. They just bail when they aren't getting what they want - and without asking.
You have to figure the source. People don't come online to tell you how well they are doing, they get on line to tell you their sob story. Applies to men and women.
Case in point, there was a nice thread here about a 2 weeks ago asking people to say what was good about their long lasting marriage, or something along those lines. It petered out in 4 pages.
On the other hand a post about a womens husband cheating on her with her sister can last for years.
This.
I typically don't even pull up this forum unless I'm procrastinating, or like now waiting for some forms to be returned.
It's not even about being positive, though. We read a lot of complaints without any real desire to get help. I don't care if someone is negative about his dating life as long as he's willing to listen to suggestions.
^^^^Perfectly put...it's what I was trying to say.
That's exactly what I notice here. That and a lot of entitlement and misplaced anger directed at non-compliant women.
By which I mean women who don't act the way they want them to.
This is like the sound bite Bar. People come to cry in their beer and vent for a quick moment. They won't typically take advice because they really already have their minds made up. Their real goal is to just share their story and vent whether they realize it or not.
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