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Old 07-28-2013, 11:32 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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OK eliminate the snack question but other than that those are the things we should be discussing until the first date
Yeah, not so much. I can't imagine discussing most of those things. And there are no "shoulds." I really don't think you should be dating right now.
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Old 07-28-2013, 11:34 AM
 
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Back then I controlled the conversation more which didn't allow for these types of questions
Yes.

You have told us before that you used to be even more of a controlling a$$hat, and abusive besides.

Sometimes you are proud of how much you have improved. But not today?
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Old 07-28-2013, 11:35 AM
 
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And there are no "shoulds." I really don't think you should be dating right now.
::laughing::

And I agree with both of these inconsistent statements .
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Old 07-28-2013, 11:36 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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::laughing::

And I agree with both of these inconsistent statements .
Hahahaha!

Perhaps I should have said - There are no "shoulds" for what to talk about during a date. And if you can't grasp that - you "should" not be dating!
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Old 07-28-2013, 11:36 AM
 
Location: Western NY
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Aye. It makes for great story-telling and conversation.

I think people who get irritated or aggravated by light conversation like that are probably ashamed of their status with it. They get chapped if someone asks them about travel because they're embarrassed that they haven't done much of it or don't have the money, and they get chapped about being asked about their occupation because they're ashamed of what they do, don't like it and feel stuck, or feel unsuccessful at it--all of which our illustrious OP has spoken about regarding himself in other threads.
Yes. It's fun to talk about your trips, or even what happened on the flight or on the road on the way there. It's harmless. You can talk about going camping, or visiting relatives, or staying in a hotel somewhere and going sightseeing, etc.
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Old 07-28-2013, 11:37 AM
 
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The "Maths" thing threw me for a loop, too.

If you love the US so much - why are you putting on British airs? I just don't get it... We don't say that over here - and even if someone has been to England - they don't necessarily change their vernacular afterwards.
I'm not putting on British airs.

I was educated outside the US for K12. I have had to pick out the differences in not only spelling but also different phrases used "sidewalk vs pavement" "trash can vs dust bin" "wind shield vs windscreen" when I came back to the US for college.

Now and then, something slips back in but I'd say it's rare.

I have lived elsewhere so I have a perspective of the US that I can appreciate I guess.
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Old 07-28-2013, 11:41 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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OK eliminate the snack question but other than that those are the things we should be discussing until the first date
If someone asked me about my shopping preferences (I still don't know what that means) at a coffee date, I might get up and leave. The usual thing is: work, hobbies, where you grew up, education. What kind of films/music/books you like. Leisure activities. Family/siblings/whatever. That's enough to keep two people busy for a 1st date.
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Old 07-28-2013, 11:43 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I'm not putting on British airs.

I was educated outside the US for K12. I have had to pick out the differences in not only spelling but also different phrases used "sidewalk vs pavement" "trash can vs dust bin" "wind shield vs windscreen" when I came back to the US for college.

Now and then, something slips back in but I'd say it's rare.

I have lived elsewhere so I have a perspective of the US that I can appreciate I guess.
That's totally fine - but I don't see a reason to put down everyone else. First you are putting down every other country because ours is so much better - and then you are putting down all the people here because we don't know everything about other countries. Like I said, just because we've visited some place - that doesn't mean we are going to know how racist people are, that they say "maths" instead of "math", what their politically leanings are, etc. I went to college in Michigan. They say "pop" there instead of "soda" like I grew up saying in California. I don't make people feel stupid for not knowing that they say "pop" in Michigan even if they have been there before. I've been to all 50 states - I don't know the vernacular of every state.
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Old 07-28-2013, 11:44 AM
 
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OK eliminate the snack question but other than that those are the things we should be discussing until the first date
If anyone asked me my style of dress, I'd think he was a pervert. "What are you wearing, huh-huh, huh-huh?"
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Old 07-28-2013, 11:45 AM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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Yes.

You have told us before that you used to be even more of a controlling a$$hat, and abusive besides.

Sometimes you are proud of how much you have improved. But not today?


Yes I am, I have matured and don't make women cry anymore when they make me mad
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