Why don't women ask men out? (how to, married, love, calling)
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Women ask men out all the time. Most relationships are initiated by women, in US culture.
If it's not happening to you, either you miss their intent or you seem unappealling to them, in some way that is probably not to do with looks or money.
Even you yourself can't possibly believe thats true.
You must live nowhere near Southern California because what that doesn't happen here AT ALL. Here it IS all about LOOKS and MONEY. You can be the sweetest, most caring guy but if you don't look like Brad Pitt or have his income then no woman will ever approach you. Might let you take her out and spend money on her but nothing serious.
Goes the same for women. It's all about looks and how much they workout or they'll be considered curvy.
Women ask out guys. They just only do it to men they deem high status, and even then alot of women won't put themselves out there for fear of rejection
Most women would rather date a guy who they are "meh" about who just happened to ask her out them go after the guy they really want. You know how many women went out with a guy last night who they probably werent feeling like that but he was the only guy who asked her out so she went along with it? That happens ALL THE TIME
Because there's no impetus for them to do so? If I was a woman, why would I risk the embarrassment and blow to self esteem that comes from being rejected when I can just wait for a man to approach?
Because generally speaking, dating is just riskier for women than it is for men. Women have to worry more about rape. Women have to worry more about physical violence. Women have to worry more about pregnancy. Women even have to worry more about STDs, since transmission from male to female is often easier than the reverse. On top of all that, sexually assertive women are still regarded as "sluts" by many men, while sexually assertive men get labeled "studs."
All of these factors make women much less likely to assert themselves by asking men out...
Women do ask men out, so your assumption is false. I also suspect that you are not asking what it is that you really want to know.
Maybe the question is: when do women ask men out and when do they not ask men out?
Or maybe you want to know why women don't ask men they don't know to have sex with them. The answer to that one is that they generally don't want to have sex with total strangers.
Women ask out guys. They just only do it to men they deem high status, and even then alot of women won't put themselves out there for fear of rejection
Most women would rather date a guy who they are "meh" about who just happened to ask her out them go after the guy they really want.
Wow, SO untrue! When women come across a guy they like or who they think will make a good partner, they'll stop at nothing to make a relationship happen! Women will do whatever they have to do to find out where a guy lives or works, to arrange an "accidental" run-in, they'll find out through the grapevine where he hangs out (after determining he's a decent sort), they'll move heaven and earth to find the guy. There was a thread up about this just a couple of weeks ago.
And many women are unfazed by rejection. Chatting up guys is routine to many women, and so are the indifferent or negative responses they get. But women don't expect every guy they approach to be interested in them, that's an unrealistic expectation. When they don't get the response they hoped for, they just move on. This shouldn't be news; it's been posted and discussed here on C-D many times.
You must live nowhere near Southern California because what that doesn't happen here AT ALL. Here it IS all about LOOKS and MONEY. You can be the sweetest, most caring guy but if you don't look like Brad Pitt or have his income then no woman will ever approach you. Might let you take her out and spend money on her but nothing serious.
Where is "here"? I've also heard that most relationships in the US are initiated by women. The thing is, some of the guys may not recognize what their SO did to initiate. Her actions may have been more subtle. But think about all the shy guys out there; it's ALWAYS women who initiate those relationships. Women will initiate by starting a conversation, or by making sure they're at the right place at the right time. Or by having a mutual friend suggest a date to the guy they're interested in, or pass along a phone number. Or by offering to cook dinner (as in the case of the guy who started the thread, "Have I Just Been Asked Out???" ) Some guys are just too dense to know their woman initiated the relationship.
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