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your callousness is only matched by your over simplification of things
I'm sorry you refuse to take responsibility for your own happiness in life. There are so many people like you around. Wallowing in self pity seems to be modern society's sole way of coping with a complicated and difficult world.
I'm sorry you refuse to take responsibility for your own happiness in life. There are so many people like you around. Wallowing in self pity seems to be modern society's sole way of coping with a complicated and difficult world.
and viewing abusers as mere strong , ambitious go getters who tell it like is it is also a modern cultural norm and enough this " im sorry " business , phoney lip service is tedious
One thing I have noticed about people who seem to embrace victimhood is that they tend to exaggerrate the crimes against them. I agree with the poster Bayarea who described the effect as building a brick wall around yourself for protection until it becomes a prison. Then complaining that someone else did that to you. You have 2 choices: stay in or find a way out.
Life is hard for almost everyone. Are you ever grateful for any of it?
One thing I have noticed about people who seem to embrace victimhood is that they tend to exaggerrate the crimes against them. I agree with the poster Bayarea who described the effect as building a brick wall around yourself for protection until it becomes a prison. Then complaining that someone else did that to you. You have 2 choices: stay in or find a way out.
Life is hard for almost everyone. Are you ever grateful for any of it?
this thread has brought out a hefty number of a h0les but you deserve the gold medal when it comes to offensiveness
bad enough you vomit up that banal crap about how life is hard for almost everyone ( getting fired from your office job is not the same as being abused as a kid ) but then you delve into a lower level of crassness by accusing victims of exaggerating what was done to them
its people like you who cause others to kill themselves but then again , you would no doubt dismiss them as weak and not fit enough for lifes race
It seems kinda simplistic and it is, but it is not simple: if you are happy with the way things are, don't change anything; and if you are unhappy do something to change it.
But complaining and remaining stagnant just chases people away.
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It seems kinda simplistic and it is, but it is not simple: if you are happy with the way things are, don't change anything; and if you are unhappy do something to change it.
But complaining and remaining stagnant just chases people away.
its not like fixing a leaking pipe
I have a net worth of the equivalent of nearly two million dollars yet im still haunted by the viscious abuse meated out to me by a psycho ***** manager I had the misfortune of working under when I was twenty years old and overseas , I haven't seen this person in fifteen years this very coming week yet I remember all the vile crap she said and did to me , do you think I remember this stuff because I enjoy it ?
is it so hard to understand that somethings cannot be overcome ?
It's a manager from 15 years ago that's the problem?
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I have a net worth of the equivalent of nearly two million dollars yet im still haunted by the viscious abuse meated out to me by a psycho ***** manager I had the misfortune of working under when I was twenty years old and overseas , I haven't seen this person in fifteen years this very coming week yet I remember all the vile crap she said and did to me , do you think I remember this stuff because I enjoy it ?
is it so hard to understand that somethings cannot be overcome ?
I believe you're the person who early on in this thread said therapy doesn't work.
But here you say that your issues are extremely difficult to fix. Wouldn't you want the help of a professional who deals with the kind of trauma you've had in your life every single day.
Give a psychologist, counselor, or social worker a chance. Go and stick with them for I'd say at least 4-6 sessions, and if by the end of 4-6 sessions you know they're no good, then move on and try another therapist.
You know that what you're doing right now isn't helping to ease the pain. So why not try something else? Why not try therapy even though right now you believe it doesn't work?
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