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I remember being 16 with her( lol, it was only 4 years ago, but still) everything was just fun and easy. I wanna go back to that.
Problem is, you're not 16-year-old kids anymore, and life is only going to get more complicated. Your relationship will either adapt or it won't. Like people have been saying, you may have outgrown each other.
You are still really young, and in some ways I think you may be putting undue pressure on yourself to change BECAUSE you don't want to lose this girl. Do you have a job? If not, consider getting a job - it will help you to grow and become more responsible as an adult. Don't give up your youth for someone else. But you do need to decide what kind of man you want to become and check in with yourself now and then and see if you are on the right path.
One more thing. What's your relationship like with your father? Is he someone you can talk with about your confusion right now, or is there another adult male in your life you could talk with?
I don't have a job. My father is not really in my life because his relationship with my mom is awful( nothing physically abusive). He doesn't like who he is when he's around her so he stays away from us and they're divorced, he lives about 45 minutes south. BTW " us" consists of myself, my mom, and my younger sister. There's never been a significant male in my life. I mean I talk to him on the phone, but hardly see him. I'll see him on Christmas when he comes here, Thanksgiving is really quick, he shows up, socializes a bit, eats, leaves. Birthdays are spent with him in a way, by in a way I mean like, lets say my birthday falls on a Tuesday, Tuesday night is spent in HB, then that Friday or Saturday I'll drive to his place for my " birthday" with him. Then there's a week in the summer, sometimes 1.5 weeks. I go to my GF with any problems I'm having, my sister comes to me with her problems and my mom went above and beyond helping us through the divorce and coping with it. My sister, she's 17 and comes to me with anything, absolutely anything, because, as cliche as it sounds, I'm the man of the house. She can't go to Dad, Dad's not here, so she comes to me.
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