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I got a lot of the same thing when a guy who liked me would tell me how they felt when they moved on or still had feelings for me.
To a lot of guys I come off as stuck up because (in their words) I am "beautiful and classy." They would always assume I had a boyfriend, when I am one of the most least experienced people in that department. I am pretty shy and self conscious so when people talk to me, it kind of makes me uncomfortable. I am trying to work on that, but it's a pretty slow process. Oh well.
To a lot of guys I come off as stuck up because (in their words) I am "beautiful and classy." They would always assume I had a boyfriend, when I am one of the most least experienced people in that department. I am pretty shy and self conscious so when people talk to me, it kind of makes me uncomfortable. I am trying to work on that, but it's a pretty slow process. Oh well.
That's a good point. It's fairly common that people who are shy can be perceived as stuck up, especially by people who are more extroverted. I encounter that sometimes, myself, though I've had some success working on it. I wonder if that could be part of what's going on with the OP, too.
What thoughts are running through your mind when you hesitate to approach a woman to express interest?
Approaching women is easy... once i am certain they are single.
I can handle rejection but what i do not know how to deal with is when a woman says she has a boyfriend/husband. once i hear her say this, i wont want to continue getting to know her while i know things wont lead any further. it also seems kind of rude to just stop the interaction and never speak to her again. what do i do??? what do i say??? i need help with this please.
Maybe I'm just as at fault for preferring men to approach me first,
Yes, that is probably a hindrance, as well. You'd likely have more success if you at least met them halfway.
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but I can't take a guy seriously who doesn't have the confidence to speak to a lady and take the risk of being shot down with dignity.
There's nothing wrong with having that preference, but it means you're probably going to have fewer options than other women who are willing to approach as well as be approached. You have to accept that reality if you're not willing to change it.
If you can't take them seriously, it sounds like it's probably for the best that you didn't end up dating any of them anyway, right?
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At any rate, isn't it high time that men and women just agree to start meeting in the middle? How about we start talking about some cues to make a guy/girl approach us when we have interest? )
Gay guys have the hanky code. It would make like so much easier if straights had something similar, but undoubtedly, we'd judge the heck out of each other for it.
The presumption i make is that shes gonna reject me so whats the point..
Reject you is the easy way and what she should do.
It's more funny and fun to lead you on, then smash your dreams to pieces. Also just to call or email you once a day just to keep you on the string so you don't look for anyone else. Your romantic relationship becomes small chit chat that is meaningless. I don't need it or the games.
If you're a good-looking woman, men will not ask you out because they will assume you're taken or married already. I used that excuse when I didn't want ask a gorgeous woman out.
If you're a good-looking woman, men will not ask you out because they will assume you're taken or married already. I used that excuse when I didn't want ask a gorgeous woman out.
That's because it's at least 85% true....maybe even 90%.
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