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I am sitting here shaking my head at this question.
Does there need to be an explanation in regards to this?
I wonder how many are going to appreciate this question that they happen to over hear being asked about their son or daughter.
To stay within the topic of the thread though I will say that some actually do not think like this about another person they see.
Not everyone has the main focus of their lives entrenched in the need to have sex with as many people as possible or to even be in a relationship.
Their lives are focused on other areas and if they are in a relationship it is great if they are not in a relationship it is also great.
Dateable or doable? Seriously?
And yet it continues to be something that men (and some women) think about and mention on this board.
These are categories that people put one another in. It's something that happens, like it or not, fair or not.
I am sitting here shaking my head at this question. Does there need to be an explanation in regards to this?
I wonder how many are going to appreciate this question that they happen to over hear being asked about their son or daughter.
To stay within the topic of the thread though I will say that some actually do not think like this about another person they see.
Not everyone has the main focus of their lives entrenched in the need to have sex with as many people as possible or to even be in a relationship.
Their lives are focused on other areas and if they are in a relationship it is great if they are not in a relationship it is also great.
I am sitting here shaking my head at this question.
Does there need to be an explanation in regards to this? I wonder how many are going to appreciate this question that they happen to over hear being asked about their son or daughter.
To stay within the topic of the thread though I will say that some actually do not think like this about another person they see.
Not everyone has the main focus of their lives entrenched in the need to have sex with as many people as possible or to even be in a relationship.
Their lives are focused on other areas and if they are in a relationship it is great if they are not in a relationship it is also great.
Dateable or doable? Seriously?
I agree with your post, and this morning I actually thought something similar to the bolded, but rather how would you feel to know your sister or mother was being objectified this way? It seems there are many guys here (I will never call them men) who are unable to view women as actual people with feelings, not just orifices for their pleasure.
It's not a question of that it has to be explained. It's called a discussion. Everyone has different opinions on what they view as dateable vs. doable.
I can't believe it has to be explained that I'm asking about criteria for one vs. the other. Could you maybe participate in one thread where you don't act like a jerk?
What is there to discuss? If a dude says a chicks is "doable" it means he's willing to sleep with her, but doesn't think highly of here.
I agree with your post, and this morning I actually thought something similar to the bolded, but rather how would you feel to know your sister or mother was being objectified this way? It seems there are many guys here (I will never call them men) who are unable to view women as actual people with feelings, not just orifices for their pleasure.
See now, this is kind of the point of my post.
Women do it too, but I think to a lesser extent, and as Thursday007 stated, it's more likely looking at celebrities or something like that. It's more fantasy based.
"Dateable" vs. "Doable" is really just an updated phrasing of the old "madonna" vs. "w***e" dichotomy.
A "dateable" woman is usually a woman who is modest, submissive and sexually receptive. Datebable women are viewed as being worthy of consideration as full human beings.
A "doable" woman is usually a women who is boisterous, independent and sexually assertive. Doable women are viewed as sluts only worthy of being used and objectified.
It is a profoundly sexist way to evaluate women.
Yes everthing today is sexist, racist, misogynistic, homophobic, blah, blah, blah. People are no longer able to express themslevs without the P.C. police coming in.
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And the question is, why? What criteria makes him not think highly of her?
Appearance? Attitude? Some people had no problem answering this question.
To me, it has nothing to do with thinking highly of a person or not.
With someone I want to date I want the entire package. Physical attraction, chemistry, we get along in lifestyles, like talking to each other, doing things or not doing things (just chilling) with each other.
The doable side is a person I'm physically attracted to enough to have sex with and her with me.
It's that simple. There isn't anything "wrong" or anything that I don't think "highly" of... we're just not a match for a relationship.
That's fine. Not everything needs to be a serious relationship. That certainly goes both ways. I doubt many of the women that have taken me home or had a fling with me thought of me as boyfriend material either.
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