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Too many choices. Men have a tendency to look for the impossible and complain about not being able to find a decent woman. Men like the chase and they chase and chase and chase and refuse to make a contact for a meet/date to possibly build a relationship. Several of the same men view my profile almost every day without any contact. Why? My profile is the same every day.
I dated quite a few very attractive women from OLD. I'd say most were more attractive than me.
Usually it was just me being awkward or not assertive enough that ended things. I do better getting to slowly know women then dating them. One day I'll figure out how to impress on a first meet. I'm always too shy.
Too many choices. Men have a tendency to look for the impossible and complain about not being able to find a decent woman. Men like the chase and they chase and chase and chase and refuse to make a contact for a meet/date to possibly build a relationship. Several of the same men view my profile almost every day without any contact. Why? My profile is the same every day.
I certainly am not a woman that gets hundreds of views, emails, likes or winks. Even when I get some sort of attention, I'm led to believe that the guy did it to accumulate points for himself somewhere on the site, win a bet, or his finger hit the wrong area of his smart phone which registered a like. I've had a handful - I would never expect "hundreds" - of messages from guys who initiated the contact. When I message back with open-ended questions or an attempt at some sort of dialogue, they don't respond. I don't get that. Why bother in the first place?
All I can figure is that they are "testing the water". Maybe they SAY the want a relationship, but really are terrified of one. Maybe if women respond online, it gives them confidence to approach women IRL.
The disparity decreases a lot as one's age increases. I suspect that the more desirable young women, say the upper third, only keep their profiles active for a week or two at a time, as that is all the time they need to line up a half dozen solid prospects, and this magnifies the disparity. And, has been said location is critical.
@MarshallV, surprised you have had success on OLD in Vail, all the CO ski towns are kind of sausage fests, at least per census data. I assume you are older, or perhaps your OLD success was before moving to vail.
U] I will have a coffee or drink meet with just about anyone local who seems interesting and normal.[/u]
That might sound nice, but the.......
Ughh...the dreaded "no chemistry date".
And guys wonder why they hear from a woman there's "no chemistry" often on online first dates that never turn into anything and are a complete waste of time. Who wants to go on dates like that? It gets your hopes up for nothing. Especially if you really like the girl.
I've literally seen 100s and 100s of men, many good looking/cool guys who are able to have success in real life, say that the only way they got any responses at all online is to go after women way less attractive than themselves. That really seems to be the only way to succeed as a man in OLD - if you're good looking, fit, young, successful, go after 35 year old overweight moms
What causes the monstrous disparity?
Yeah...have those same guys approach women and chat them up in real life and let me know if it's really that different. Just approach random women and let me know. If you're not really good looking you're going to get shot down. And if they're having such great sucess in "real life" why go online? People go online because they're having trouble meeting someone
Women are picky and want the sparks with the alphas. It's the same whether online or in "real life". The key for an average joe is just to find that one girl who happens to find you attractive. That 1 in 1000. And yes it's one sided....men generally have to chase women unless they're in the top 5% of alpahas.
Last edited by mikelizard860; 08-12-2014 at 09:27 PM..
I've literally seen 100s and 100s of men, many good looking/cool guys who are able to have success in real life, say that the only way they got any responses at all online is to go after women way less attractive than themselves. That really seems to be the only way to succeed as a man in OLD - if you're good looking, fit, young, successful, go after 35 year old overweight moms
What causes the monstrous disparity?
Demographics of internet use. More men are online. Even a small imbalance leads to one side having a big advantage.
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