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I am am stressed out..... what with ib and work. He will not get them today, but I have to meet him in the morning with the kids. Started his new job on monday and he works 3 to 11 now.
So, it begins. He does not call them in the evening now, he did leave this message on my voice mail last night, well, it was around 2. Everything is going to be ok... blah blah blah and I will see you on Saturday.
I verified the kids benefits yesterday at work. The things that are covered you have to pay a 250 deductible before ins will pick up.
No routine visits are covered, so, say A needed to follow up for his asthma or scoliosis, nope. Can't do it. No specialist visits are covered. At all. No well child visits are covered. Nothing is covered but basically a cold. The coverage ends in exactly 3 months.
I have no idea about her meds, there is no pre existing coverage, and her dr is a specialist, so he is not covered, therapy is not covered. Nothing is covered.
What is the use of even having it? And like I have 250 to spend in order for medication to be covered. And then, Ls med is not even covered!
I hate to rock the boat with him, I just hate it. I was not feeling well last night, noticably. The stress..
Ugh.
At least its Friday, I suppose. The kids both seem down, I don't know if it is because they will begoing with him tomorrow instead of today like usual, or if it is because they are going at all. I don't know if it is because he is not calling them now. I just don't know. Maybe my stress is visible, I don't know.
I have not been any different with them that normal, but I have not felt well.. this bites.
Yep, Robyn, it does bite. I wish there could be an easy way to deal with this. I can't think of any easy way.
DAIB has not displayed any surprising choices. This is just one more classic, control freak move. He will chew off his arm in order to remove a small splinter from his pinkie.
Give yourself the weekend. I know it will be tough to have the conflict. He probably knows you don't like conflict and contention. He's counting on it.
Call the courts, mediators, whomever you can find, and ask what your options might be. DAIB won't even need to know that you made the calls, but you will have gained some power with knowledge.
People who consistently make choices that are damaging to others can't be trusted to do what's in any one's best interest......including their own. Don't allow him to do it to you and the kids. You are the only solider in this conflict. You alone need to lead and fight.
Btw, did I mention he's still a jerk. jmho....grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So funny you have mentioned that, Rockky.... that is his new name from me. Of course, I never call him that infront of the kids, only in conversation with friends, outside of my home.
He really and truly is. Tuesday is my half day, I will be making calls. Yes, I am thinking this weekend I will just chill. I wish I could just go up to my sisters. It was so nice to be around family like that. I have no one here.
Just me. The family I HAD was his family. Not anymore. Its just me, myself, and I.
It just feels good to be around family. I was feeling so good when I was up there.
Last week when he came and got the kids, and took A, I told him that he needed to bring him all the way home, I didn't have the gas to go all the way out there.
He says to me why? Oh thats right, he says, because you went to maryland, shaking his head at me.
So what if I went to Maryland! He also had A when he was not supposed to, and he also does not follow the arrangement.
UGH! I need to stop thinking of him and think about.... chocolate or something. UGH!@
Well... I'll tell you what. With all that happens, all that has happened with him... I am so much better for it now...
I am in a much better place for it.
I am a much happier person, and I have learned how to love myself, but I do have a long way to go, yet.
I'll know when I get there. months? Years? I don't know, but when I arrive, I will surely know.
So many milestones in this trip I am taking... so very many.
Hey, Hon....don't look at the goal of getting 'there'. Just know that each day makes you stronger and builds your character. You've come so far already. Keeping your eyes on some sort of goal may distract you from enjoying the small advances of each moment.
Besides, I don't think any of us ever get 'there'. It's about the journey in life. That's the joy of living.
There's nothing wrong with you going to visit family. He's just a control freak jerk. Plus, it's none of his business. If you budgeted for your travel to visit family, you don't owe him any explanation or discussion of any sort. It's one of those, "Excuse me. I need to go feed the ***." moments.
He's such a jerk!!!!!!!
btw, what is it he's calling you to your face? Jerk? Soldier? If he's calling you 'soldier' he's been watchin' too many old, John Wayne movies. Yuck!
Robyn, Jim needs to pay out of pocket for any medical related expenses as he agreed to carry the kid's medical insurance. He chose to opt out of Cobra. He also chose not to consult you until after the fact. How could the man be such a moron?
Robyn, it's your nature to be nice- this is a situation that demands you not be nice. If you allow this, you are hurting nobody other than yourself and the kids. Not to mention, opening the door for him to continue making your life a living hell.
He has taken it upon himself to modify the terms of your mediation. Now take it upon yourself to fight for what both of your kids- and YOU need right now.
Since he's going to be visiting with the kids on Saturday, then maybe he should make both of the full round trips himself. The he can spend some quality time with them during the drive instead of the MIL.
The gas money that you save will help you to pay the additional medical costs he's trying to dump on you.
Just call him (at 5 a.m. if necessary) and tell him he needs to come pick them up....click!
ROBYN- GIRLFRIEND- If IB is to provide insurance for his children, then he needs to provide insurance for his children. This is not a grey area. It is court ordered.
You can't afford to go without coverage for L. And if A wants to take part in sports, he will need insurance. Be a hard-ass about this. The court requires it and IB can not blow off the court. Call the judge and speak to his JA- ask what you should do.
What? Was it something I said? Did I yell too loud? I didn't mean to be a thread killer...
No, I won't back down on my previous comment- do you know that today I went to get an Rx for a sty that my son has in his eye and it cost $90? And BCBS will only pay $20.....meaning that I have to pay $70? FOR A STY? I told the pharm that I would just go buy him an eye patch.
Ringworm meds (from those damn pitt bulls my oldest son had to deal with)....$120!!!!! And BCBS only paid $20, meaning $100 for a script for ringworm?
Okay, I'm cooling down now. Rant over.
Thanks for the nice DM, Robyn. Yes, you are cool! When ya comin to FLA?
I should come to Florida this summer, shouldn't I? You thread killer, you! LOL It it raining its butt off here in Virginia right now.
I just want to go to sleep, neighbors partied and drank last night til forever. I have been up since 6:41 and I am old. Dag on it!@
Your welcome for the nice dm... and thank you!!!!
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