Women are the choosers and men get chosen? (marriages, love, Latin)
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Judge Judy always tells women in a bad relationship on her show"You picked them"
I do not understand that.
Let me explain....
How can women be the choosers if MEN approach women they like 90% of the time?
Isn"t it men who really do the choosing?
If a woman does not have any man approach her,then how is she the "chooser"?
Most women i know who do not get chosen(approached) do not pursue any relationship esp if nobody chooses her.
For women who do get approached,and only gets approached by bums,then how is she doing the choosing IF only the bums approach her?
Are not the bums choosing her for a potential relationship?
I think what she means is, men do the approaching but women have the final say in whether or not they will accept a man.
When a man is a "bum" and a woman accepts him anyway, that's on her.
If only "bums" are approaching you, you might want to consider a little therapy to get to the bottom of what kind of image you are portraying to the world
Agreed. Looking at my female friends, they definitely do the choosing. Plenty choose to stay alone because the choices are poor, but still.
Yep.
Although to be fair, it's not like a man (in this traditional man approaching woman scenario) has no choice. He also chooses by choosing who to approach in the first place. But that's beside the point. Like you said, if (as a woman) "bums" are approaching you, all you do is say no. If you say yes, well, they Judge Judy in the OP is right, you did indeed choose them (as well).
The bottom line is women are pickier. It makes sense. She is the weaker and more vulnerable one. She is usually looking for a man to be a source of strength and stability. Men do choose which women to pursue. But their first cut is a much bigger pool than hers. IMHO, men could be happily married with a larger number of women that vice versa. Women choose which man they want from the available pool of suitors/bf's they've had. Plus, a lot of women are not potted plants when it comes to being approached. They flirt and give hints, and sometimes ask out first. Women will also hint about getting married, even pressure their bf to get married. So yes, it ultimately ends up being that they choose each other. But then Judge Judy is correct. You choose him!!!! She made her choice from the choices that were available to her.
How can women be the choosers if MEN approach women they like 90% of the time?
Isn"t it men who really do the choosing?
You would only have a point if women were forced to say yes when men approached them. As it happens, they are not. The above posters are correct (also, +1 to the great analogy about employers/employees). The final say is the "chooser", and as you pointed out, men do most of the approaching, which means women most often have the final "say" as to whether or not they get together.
Judge Judy always tells women in a bad relationship on her show"You picked them"
I do not understand that.
Let me explain....
How can women be the choosers if MEN approach women they like 90% of the time?
Isn"t it men who really do the choosing?
If a woman does not have any man approach her,then how is she the "chooser"?
Most women i know who do not get chosen(approached) do not pursue any relationship esp if nobody chooses her.
For women who do get approached,and only gets approached by bums,then how is she doing the choosing IF only the bums approach her?
Are not the bums choosing her for a potential relationship?
It is because women on the whole have more options, hence they have their 'pick'. Of course, this is only a generalization, but it is true more often than not, since guys are more frequently outward about their interests in a woman.
Although to be fair, it's not like a man (in this traditional man approaching woman scenario) has no choice. He also chooses by choosing who to approach in the first place. But that's beside the point. Like you said, if (as a woman) "bums" are approaching you, all you do is say no. If you say yes, well, they Judge Judy in the OP is right, you did indeed choose them (as well).
Yep, I agree men have choices. For some, though it's very cut and dry, either approach or stay single.
men choose who they decide to approach, women choose who they want a relationship with. its that simple. guy A can approach woman B, but if woman B doesnt want guy A, then there is no relationship. if guy A forces the issue, then woman B calls the cops and guy A goes to jail.
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