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You can try NC and play games, but in the end, if she doesn't want to be with you.. doesn't matter what amount of time you give her with or without the text. Once someone's made up their mind, their mind's pretty made up.
"You mean a lot to me. I have to think this over" sounds like a soft-blow to me.
Her refuting on your not keeping in touch via text? Means she's still attached. Doesn't mean she's into the relationship like she used to be. Maybe your issues have something to do with trust in the relationship and her not seeing you in the same light anymore?
You can try NC and play games, but in the end, if she doesn't want to be with you.. doesn't matter what amount of time you give her with or without the text. Once someone's made up their mind, their mind's pretty made up.
"You mean a lot to me. I have to think this over" sounds like a soft-blow to me.
Her refuting on your not keeping in touch via text? Means she's still attached. Doesn't mean she's into the relationship like she used to be. Maybe your issues have something to do with trust in the relationship and her not seeing you in the same light anymore?
well she never rejected me, she just doesnt know whether she wants a relationship or not (which I think is the result of the way our previous relationship ended -which was the only negative in it-)
what im askin is should i be keeping touch with her during this "thought time" or not?
I'm in the same boat man.. Exact same story too, I made a stupid mistake in which I just wasn't myself. She was my first love and we were together for 2 years. She also told me after dumping me that she needed time. 1 month after the dumping we met and I begged for a second chance and she said she needed time.. I am now 4 months further and still haven't heard from her. I do NC. And yeah, I am really impatient too.
It seems impossible, but just let her go man. The 2 months after she dumped me I was constantly checking up on her FB and all that sort of crap because that was my way of coping with it. I just could NOT let her go. One day I said to myself to never check again and I did it! Believe me man.. I feel SO much greater. Think about the future and set goals to yourself. I did it and I feel so much better.
Again, it seems impossible, but it's the best for now. If she loves you, she will come back! Believe me! Unfortunately not in my case.. But it will become much better man, just keep strong and you WILL get there! It's all about you now!
I'm in the same boat man.. Exact same story too, I made a stupid mistake in which I just wasn't myself. She was my first love and we were together for 2 years. She also told me after dumping me that she needed time. 1 month after the dumping we met and I begged for a second chance and she said she needed time.. I am now 4 months further and still haven't heard from her. I do NC. And yeah, I am really impatient too.
It seems impossible, but just let her go man. The 2 months after she dumped me I was constantly checking up on her FB and all that sort of crap because that was my way of coping with it. I just could NOT let her go. One day I said to myself to never check again and I did it! Believe me man.. I feel SO much greater. Think about the future and set goals to yourself. I did it and I feel so much better.
Again, it seems impossible, but it's the best for now. If she loves you, she will come back! Believe me! Unfortunately not in my case.. But it will become much better man, just keep strong and you WILL get there! It's all about you now!
Peace
Nice man. well she told me she only need a few days so im gonna wait for a few days and the "Bye Bye"..
Nice man. well she told me she only need a few days so im gonna wait for a few days and the "Bye Bye"..
Ah, ok that's totally fine. But please don't have any high expectations. I expected a 2nd chance when I begged for it and I got broken once again. So please prepare for the worst, I learned from it. In the meantime, just do your thing like you always do. She'll come around.
Ah, ok that's totally fine. But please don't have any high expectations. I expected a 2nd chance when I begged for it and I got broken once again. So please prepare for the worst, I learned from it. In the meantime, just do your thing like you always do. She'll come around.
well she never rejected me, she just doesnt know whether she wants a relationship or not (which I think is the result of the way our previous relationship ended -which was the only negative in it-)
what im askin is should i be keeping touch with her during this "thought time" or not?
A definitive No.
I don't see why you can't leave a brief message like: "I'm glad I was able to date you." State your stance: "I wish not to contact you at this present time." Wish her well: "Good luck and I hope you meet someone special in your life."
Short and simple. And, really let her go. Perhaps the part that's hardest for most people is that they feel bitterness or hurt when they break-up.
The gentlest break-ups are when you break up as friends, not as enemies. Talk it out once, and that's all you need.
Sorta like finishing unfinished business. Lots of people feel resentful when they have unresolved issues.
Maybe talk it out, and then wish her peace, joy, happiness.. all the good stuff you'd wish for yourself, too.
Really, dating is just a trial period, a small momentary part in our lives that eventually becomes a faded memory.
She may like you, but do you really want to be with someone who has to think that hard about whether they really want to spend time with you and have you as a partner? Wouldn't you rather be with someone who has a little more enthusiasm for you and definitely wants you?
Because it's not about her wanting to be in a relationship. It's about her wanting to be in a relationship with you. If she was really into you, she wouldn't be sitting around wasting time. She'd be with you.
In your shoes would fade on her, to be honest. Too many other people out there.
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