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Remember threesome with your gf or wife tend to backfire...because if she pleases you, then she will ask you to fix her with a threesome with another guy.
Threesomes are for couples into that thing "swingers" and usually it's because they need the "extra spice" into the relationship, but believe me it's for couples with waaaay years into their relationship, and only if they are BOTH into that. And it's not for everyone. I did a couple of "swinger" stuff back in the day when I wasn't attached to anyone really, but I would never ever put my gf or wife into that mix.
If you need the "spice" go for normal things. Drop the kids with your grandparents and head with your wife to Sandals or a beach resort, do some "roleplaying", buy her "Victorias' Secret".
So apologize to her, and never mention that again. And yes..the sex tape thing is also "off limits".
But you can give me the e-mail of your frisky girlfriend!
OP, your diagnosis of the problem seems to be that things need "spicing up". That contradicts your statement that your wife is too tired and too concerned with the baby to have sex. This is your problem; your wife is exhausted from a year of taking care of an infant at all hours, 24/7, and you're using that as an excuse to have threesomes. Naturally she's shocked and bewildered. It's not a "spicing up" problem, it's just a first-baby problem. Things should begin to normalize as the baby starts sleeping through the night, AND after your wife catches up on her sleep.
If you really wanted to help and get things a little back on track, you could have suggested getting a nanny. But I suggest you start simply by communicating with your wife. Ask how you can help. Then do what she says.
First of all, you are a parent, not a babysitter. The kid is a YEAR OLD. You have had plenty of time to "get more comfortable" taking care of him by yourself. It's easier at this age than newborn anyway.
No. 2, it sounds like you just want the co-worker. I cannot believe you asked her FIRST before checking with your wife.
No. 3, you have a LOT of work to do to fix this with your wife. It's odd to me that after this long together you wouldn't have had some idea about her feelings about this proposition. Nevertheless, you have sent her into a tailspin and made her question your entire relationship.
You two have a LOT to talk about, and you need to forget the threesome idea, dude. You don't need to "spice things up." You need to step up.
Wow. Seriously. Wow. I can't believe that your girlfriend wasn't thrilled that you took matters into your own hands and approached someone you worked with about having sex with you and your girlfriend. I mean, she sounds really ungrateful. I would let her know who makes the decisions in the relationship and whose opinions matter by inviting your colleague over for the threesome even though your girlfriend wasn't too keen on the idea. I mean - the nerve of her not being into having sex with you and another woman that you work with! Better yet - just have sex with your colleague with out your girlfriend! That will show her!
OP- you said your last girlfriend was into it, doesnt mean THIS girlfriend is or will be forever.
She had a baby, shes tired, grumpy, feels ugly, has formula/breastmilk/milk on her, has been pooped/peed and puked on, shes likely not showered, really wants a break........and YOU want a 3 way.
Telling her sorry wont do any good, you need to SHOW her youre sorry. No, not stupid flowers, candy and gifts. Man up. Grow up. Stop watching porn if you are (because im willing to bet this idea didnt pop out of thin air). Commit to ONLY HER.
Here's a better way to show your love and consideration for your girlfriend and your child. Marry her.
We've discussed it before. Not in our plans, wouldn't change a thing and we would spend money needlessly.
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