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lol nope, grew up in NY, went to a boarding school in CT for high school that had people from all over the world, college in Boston and Florida... I've been all over the place. I don't think having sex is bad, I don't feel like re-explaining what I've already said.
Oh if it is anything like Choate Rosemary Hall in any way that would explain it.
Oh if it is anything like Choate Rosemary Hall in any way that would explain it.
Lol, nah I went to Kent School. My friends and the girls I ended up with were from all over the world (off the top of my head, Dominican Republic, Korea, Spain, Puerto Rico, Scandinavia, Germany, Britain) nothing like the bible belt where everyone is a carbon copy of one another.
There are some women you just don't want to get serious with, they are heart breakers. When you see enough of them you get a good idea of what they are like, and can see them coming. And you talk to their friends and acquaintances to get an idea of their history and nature.
It's common sense to me I've had people warn me about girls and it ended up saving me from a world of hurt, and I've done the same for guys, and I've seen and experienced the results of not paying attention to the warning signs and being blinded by lust/love. And this is just for run of the mill serious relationships, not something as permanent and serious as marriage.
There are some women you just don't want to get serious with, they are heart breakers. When you see enough of them you get a good idea of what they are like, and can see them coming. And you talk to their friends and acquaintances to get an idea of their history and nature.
It's common sense to me I've had people warn me about girls and it ended up saving me from a world of hurt, and I've done the same for guys, and I've seen and experienced the results of not paying attention to the warning signs. And this is just for run of the mill serious relationships, not something as permanent and serious as marriage.
I totally agree. But those warning signs have nothing to do with their sex lives when single.
Just as my sex life when single doesn't indicate anything about my ability to form and foster healthy monogamous relationships. I have no idea why men and women would differ in this regard. I've seen nothing in my life that indicates they would.
I totally agree. But those warning signs have nothing to do with their sex lives when single.
Just as my sex life when single doesn't indicate anything about my ability to form and foster healthy monogamous relationships. I have no idea why men and women would differ in this regard. I've seen nothing in my life that indicates they would.
In my experience there is a strong correlation in their behavior when single and what you can expect in a relationship. You're right though, that isn't the only thing that matters. It's when that behavior syncs up with other warning signs that you need to run the other way.
In my experience there is a strong correlation in their behavior when single and what you can expect in a relationship. You're right though, that isn't the only thing that matters. It's when that behavior syncs up with other warning signs that you need to run the other way.
A person can't be monogamous outside of a relationship, so how can her "monogamy" outside of a relationship tell you about how she is with "monogamy" in one?
No the same applies to men. There are lots of men who have no business being in a relationship but do it anyway, either because the woman wrangled them into it, someone they respect told them they should settle down, they talk themselves into it, or just the general societal influences get to them (there is no doubt that there is a bias towards being in a relationship in todays society).
No the same applies to men. There are lots of men who have no business being in a relationship but do it anyway, either because the woman wrangled them into it, someone they respect told them they should settle down, they talk themselves into it, or just the general societal influences get to them (there is no doubt that there is a bias towards being in a relationship in todays society).
So - you think that both men and women who sleep with a lot of people are not good relationship prospects?
A person can't be monogamous outside of a relationship, so how can her "monogamy" outside of a relationship tell you about how she is with "monogamy" in one?
Well it's as much about what she doesn't do, like she isn't out sleeping with 3-4 new men every week when she's single... that's one example of how a naturally monogamous person acts outside of a relationship. That kind of behavior just doesn't occur to such a person, it's not desirable.
To some people that doesn't compute, they think "how could banging 3-4 people every week not be seen as the perfect life?". Those are the ones I stay away from.
So - you think that both men and women who sleep with a lot of people are not good relationship prospects?
Depends on how they go about it. It's not the number so much as their thought process/natural mindset around the whole thing, although once the number hits a certain point it's pretty telling in it's own right.
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I've had people warn me about girls and it ended up saving me from a world of hurt, and I've done the same for guys, and I've seen and experienced the results of not paying attention to the warning signs and being blinded by lust/love. And this is just for run of the mill serious relationships, not something as permanent and serious as marriage.
