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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
What if your ideal guy is in Boise, but you choose Houston, because the dating pool is bigger there?
If the OP is a driven professional seeking a driven professional then she is more likely to find what she wants in Houston over Boise. Houston makes more sense because of type of selection rather than number of selections. I left Louisville because I wanted to be around and date professional educated people and knew damn well DC was a million times better bet than Louisville.
If the OP is a driven professional seeking a driven professional then she is more likely to find what she wants in Houston over Boise. Houston makes more sense because of type of selection rather than number of selections. I left Louisville because I wanted to be around and date professional educated people and knew damn well DC was a million times better bet than Louisville.
How did that work for you? I'm going to go waaaaaaay out on a limb and suggest that it really won't matter how big or not the city for the o.p. In other words, she may as well live where she wants to live. People who "date" never find anyone. They don't. When they hook up eventually, it fails, finding someone isn't the hard part. Any driven six figure professional can pull that off. If the o.p. was capable of it she would have done it already. There is always online dating IF the local pool of eligible men is too small.
This is for females to respond because I think males don't think the same way about this as we do...
I have two job opportunities:
Job A: big city - Houston, LOTS of dating opportunities, job pays well, lots of traffic, things to do
Job B: smaller city - Corpus Chrisit, cushy job = about 75% of the work for the same job in above city, great outdoors, SCANT dating scene for what I am looking for (I don't want to elaborate, thanks).
Job C: smallest city - Boise, job similar to job A but long-term opportunities are better, no traffic, great outdoors, scant dating scene.
Problem: I want job B, but I am reallllllyyyy wanting to settle down! I think I'd be happier in a smaller city if I had a family, but right now, I'd rather be in the bigger city and meet a guy. Job B offers about 15% more in salary for less work.
I feel I am nearing the end of my prime dating years...so I want to find someone during this time before it gets harder. But I also don't want to end up living in a big city forever because his job is there - my career tends to pay more in rural areas and I'd probably have more opportunity in those areas career-wise.
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What are "prime dating years"? Did you come with a "best sold by" date on you or something? Just curious, what do YOU consider the end of your dating shelf life?
What are "prime dating years"? Did you come with a "best sold by" date on you or something? Just curious, what do YOU consider the end of your dating shelf life?
This is what I was wondering. I asked this on pg. 1, but still no response. The OP probably has more time left than she thinks, so it doesn't really matter that much where she moves. But, whatever.
This is what I was wondering. I asked this on pg. 1, but still no response. The OP probably has more time left than she thinks, so it doesn't really matter that much where she moves. But, whatever.
She already refused to answer one question for fear of others not liking the answer. I reckon the answer to your question will be to the same tune. You guys are trying too hard to changer her premises. When a woman says she wants to settle down, just believe that she wants to settle down without questioning.
But how did she determine what the dating scene would be like in each area? Based on a male to female ratio? Based on what her personal preference is? Until you have actually spent time in a city, you don't know what type of people you'll run into.
I'm just curious. Many dedicated professionals make less than 6 figures. At that level it has little to do with drive or work ethic and more to do with choice of profession.
I've got no skin in this game- I'm a woman so it's generally accepted that I'll make less than my spouse.
Most women aren't willing to date down though, so her wanting a guy that makes more is a reasonable and normal requirement. Of course, whether she gets what she wants is going to depend on other factors.
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